Newbie Here Needs Your Input!

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Registered: 05-31-2011
Newbie Here Needs Your Input!
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Tue, 05-31-2011 - 10:28pm

Hi ladies! Newbie here with a question. Something has been on my mind and i hope you can help. I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for nearly 5 months. He is in the military and was recently deployed. We met online and both were previously married. He has been divorced from his wife since 07 and me? Well I'm still married, and the thing is,

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Thu, 06-16-2011 - 9:55am

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Thu, 06-16-2011 - 9:52am

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Wed, 06-08-2011 - 10:27am

You came to this board with a problem that didn't even really relate to the military, asked for our advice, and now you're being snarky to me about it.

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Tue, 06-07-2011 - 10:06pm
I am going to stick up for Jess a little here and just say that you came to the board seeking advice and everyone gave you their opinion on the situation. You can either take that advice or leave it. You didn't ask about any of the positives of military life. You asked us to weigh in on your specific situation and Jess simply stated that some parts of military life are hard and can be made harder if trust isn't there.

I think you've already made up your mind on what you are going to do and I hope it works out for you.

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Tue, 06-07-2011 - 9:08pm

I was definately being facetious by asking that question which is why it didn't make sense to you. It seems like i've been getting a lot of responses

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Registered: 10-22-2008
Sun, 06-05-2011 - 10:14pm

Well, I'm not sure what kind of a question that is.

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Sun, 06-05-2011 - 3:59pm

Oh, well good for you! So how difficult has it been being in a relationship with a guy that's in the military?

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Sun, 06-05-2011 - 3:43pm
"My DH and I had an agreement that I wouldn't keep anything from him while he was deployed, no matter how bad it was. He knew he wouldn't be able to do anything if things happened, but he didn't want to wait a year (or so) to find out about things just because he was deployed."

DH and I have this same agreement. I don't get the whole mindset of not telling things to your spouse while they are gone. Just because they are deployed doesn't mean life stops and part of life may be news they'd rather not hear. I know my DH is a strong man and can handle being able to still be a husband to me when I need him, even when he's deployed.

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