Newlyweds or adjusting to new life

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Registered: 04-06-2007
Newlyweds or adjusting to new life
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Mon, 06-20-2011 - 6:14pm

Hi, I'm a newlywed to a wonderful man in the navy. We got married almost four months ago and I've moved accross the country ever since. I love him very much but I'm having a hard time adjusting to being away from my friends and family and I feel very alone most of the time. It's hard to make friends and his guy friends are around all the time. Anyone else a newlywed or having a hard time like me?

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Tue, 06-21-2011 - 11:08am
I'm sorry you are having a hard time. Jess and Jenny gave you wonderful advice so I don't really have anything to add to that part of it.

One thing to remember is that this is all extremely new. It's going to take you some time to adjust. Your life has completely changed and it is normal for you to feel a little overwhelmed sometimes.

As for his guy friends being around a lot, I have an idea. Do you like to cook? If you do, maybe a couple times a month you could invite all of his buddies over and cook them a nice, homemade meal. That way, your DH still gets to have his friends around but it's on set days and then you have something to keep you busy during the time they are there. That frees up your other nights/weekends for you to go out with your DH and have good, couple fun.

Good luck to you. Feel free to stick around here. These ladies are full of wonderful advice and are a lot of fun!

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Registered: 02-01-2007
Tue, 06-21-2011 - 7:57am

Hi and welcome to our board. I am Jenny and my dh is also Navy. Jess gave you all the advice I would give. Get out and learn about where you are living. Get involved in something you enjoy and you will meet other people. Is your husband on a ship? Do they have a spouse group? My husband was on carriers and their groups were too big for me to feel comfortable but I know small boys are a much different world. These groups are not always very active when the ship is in port but will pick up if they start work ups or go on deployment.

I also agree with Jess on finding time for just the two of you. There is nothing wrong with some of the guys hanging out with you sometimes. You might even discover you like having them around. When Rob and I were newly married I discovered that some of the single guys really liked hanging out at our house. I think they liked the "home" feeling. However, there does need to be some limits and time for you to be a couple.



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Registered: 10-22-2008
Mon, 06-20-2011 - 10:09pm

I can sort of relate.

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