Officer & Enlisted Spouses Socializing

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Officer & Enlisted Spouses Socializing
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Mon, 05-02-2011 - 4:53pm

Hey Ladies ,

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Registered: 04-05-2006
Mon, 05-02-2011 - 6:18pm

I have socialized with Officer's wives within our squadron. Never thought twice about it.

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Registered: 08-25-2005
Mon, 05-02-2011 - 6:27pm

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Registered: 02-09-2010
Mon, 05-02-2011 - 6:55pm
Thanks for the responses. I've been in the civilian world all of my life, so the idea of rank in general is so strange to me. I agree, it shouldn't apply to spouses, especially in this particular situation. I've never been on the inside of a clique before and it makes me feel icky. It's complicated though, it's a small office and I don't want to cause drama. This spouse doesn't know that she isn't being invited to stuff, and I'm not about to tell her. I think in the future I will meet with people one on one. If it's a group thing that includes everyone but her, I just won't show up to that.
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Registered: 05-18-2006
Mon, 05-02-2011 - 10:01pm

I thought this all went away.

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Registered: 02-09-2010
Tue, 05-03-2011 - 10:54am

Well, my husband is a company grade officer, so no reserved parking spots and no special treatment. (Not that I want either.) He actually deals with higher ranking officers all day and has no supervisory duties, so I'm not sure he even feels like an "officer"

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Registered: 01-04-2006
Tue, 05-03-2011 - 11:47am

My husband is a field grade officer,

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Tue, 05-03-2011 - 11:55am
"People assume that you know things and if you ask questions they look at you like you're slow."

Never be afraid to ask questions. If someone tries to make you feel dumb, that's their problem. Every single person had to start out in this life clueless and we all learn with experience! I've been with my DH for 8 years and there are still things I don't understand!

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Registered: 02-09-2010
Tue, 05-03-2011 - 1:22pm
Yes, I've heard that you actually understand why the military does certain things, it's time to get out. I'm just happy that I haven't accidentally stumbled through a shooting range or gotten picked up by the MPs. Not that I'm wild, I just have very bad luck!
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Registered: 03-04-2004
Fri, 05-06-2011 - 1:37pm

I have two close friends whose DH's are officers. One couple we really couldn't hang out with together because he was my DH's CO and that can get murky. My other friend, her DH is in a completely different MOS/Brigade so we do things like have dinners with them etc..

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