Putting Patriotism aside for a moment...

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Putting Patriotism aside for a moment...
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 4:05pm
For those with deployed husbands right now...

Is there any of you that sometimes (or always, or never) think that they would prefer their husbands not being part of this?

I'm just wondering...because I've made my mind already about this...

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 4:11pm
Even though I don't have a husband deployed I am pretty passionate about your question.

While NO one in their right mind would want their dh to be off fighting in a war it is their job. They don't have a choice and we don't have a choice. It is our life and part of what they signed up for. It would be unfair of me to tell my husband I don't want him to go. It is an unspoken knowledge between us and should he go I'll support him 110%. We live in the land of limbo right now so he could go if the need arises.

I don't think about the what if's because they aren't a part of my reality. My reality consist of the fact that he serves in the military.

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Rose

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 4:44pm
No

my husband wants to be there, he is a patriot in every since of the word and does his job with pride and dignity and i back him 110% i know that he needs to be there he needs to do his job and yes i want him home safe with me but as my husband has said on many occasions what he does is bigger than us it is securing a future not only for our children but for the children and people of the world. no matter how long or how far he is from me my support for him is always there!!

Lisa

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 5:08pm
Why is that I feel like it's a sin the way I think?
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 5:23pm
Honestly speaking here, No I do not. While I miss my hubby like crazy, I am so overwhelmingly proud of him for being part of the military that is willing to protect not just us but other's on our planet that I would feel rather "left behind" if he wasn't involved.

Mic

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 5:30pm
Lisa, your husband is sooooo right, this is the future of our children, those great little innocents we would all give our lives for.

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Mic

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 5:44pm
Call me selfish or unpatriotic, but even though I understand the fact that my husband choose the military as a way of life, I don’t seem to understand why I so wrong with wanting him not to be part of it.
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 5:47pm
I will say that I have moments where I wish DH didnt have to go overthere to fight. I am Patriotic and I am proud for what my husband does. And I will always be proud of him for all that he has done.

But there are moments where I wish he didnt have to go and fight and be in harms way. It is a natural reaction that I have. I am very protective of the ones I love. And because of that, there will always be a little part of me that doesnt want him to go.

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Anna

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 5:48pm
I don't think that anyone would call you either of the above, we all have a right to our opinions and have no control over our feelings.

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Mic

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 5:52pm
I don't want DH to go, but I am glad that he is doing what he is doing. I am proud of him. I really wouldn't have it any other way!
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 5:59pm
Thank you...because there are moments that I have a lot of things to say...and here I read that most of you are so willing to embrace the idea that having a husband in a war is the most and ultimate demontration of patriotism, that it might even go above and beyond the unity of our families. That their wishes for heroism should go before our wishes to have a husband next to us, helping us raise a family....

But hey- don't be mad at me...

Maybe I'm getting tired of all of this, maybe I just can't fit into this style of having a family...like a single mother...but not being one...

Maybe the "what if's??" are massively invading my thoughts...

I'm just human,as well as my husband is not a savior, he's as human as I am.

Maybe after this post, I won't be as "popular" with you ladies anymore...

But as I would open myself to my mother, or my only brother, I can't help but be totally and completely honest with all of you.

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