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Registered: 07-22-2010
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Thu, 07-22-2010 - 9:54pm

My boyfriend is going into the army in a few months, we are getting married when he returns and i just have some questions to make me feel more comfortable.


After we get married when do the benefits start?


Do their personalities change after they get home from boot camp?


Is the housing money included in their monthly pay?


How long are deployments and how often do they actually happen?


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Registered: 10-05-2007
In reply to: armywife303
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 10:05pm

After we get married when do the benefits start?
As soon as you get enrolled in DEERS. You will need your marriage certificate to do this and then you will get your military ID. After that, you will get set up with Tricare (this may take 30 days to kick in, depending on when you get enrolled). He will have to talk to his S-1 (I believe this is who it is, not 100% sure) and they will get everything else rolling (changing his dependents to 1, getting BAH set up, etc).

Do their personalities change after they get home from boot camp?
I met my DH after he was already in the army for a few years but I would guess it depends on the person. I had a friend who I knew through boot camp and the only change was that he matured.

Is the housing money included in their monthly pay?
Yes, it will be listed as BAH. If you live on post, it will be automatically deducted from your pay, however.

How long are deployments and how often do they actually happen?
It depends on the job, where he is stationed, and about 100 other things! Usually army deployments are 12 months. They can be every other year or spread out more. My DH came home from his deployment in May of 2008 and was set to deploy again in June 2009 but he had shoulder surgery. We then moved in February of 2010 and now he isn't set to deploy until June of 2011 so he will have been home 3 years. I consider us EXTREMELY lucky, however, as this isn't normal.

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Registered: 07-22-2010
In reply to: armywife303
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 10:18pm
what do you do to pass time when they are away? Since you move to be with them you dont know anyone. Is it easy to make friends? Or do you go back home for awhile?
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Registered: 11-09-2005
In reply to: armywife303
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 10:19pm
Ditto everything Amy said. As far as personalities changing, I married my husband before he went to basic. He really didn't change too much after basic...the big changes came after deploying. Someone once told me deployments will make or break you.....from what I've seen through 3 deployments, that's TOTALLY true!




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Registered: 07-12-2007
In reply to: armywife303
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 10:25pm
The answers given are correct, I just wanted to weigh in on the deployment question. DH has been in for 7 years 4 months. He has been deployed 4 times. His first was as soon as he got done with Basic and AIT. He went to a unit that was already deployed. So that was 10 months. His second was a full year. His 3rd was 7 months. He switched units and deployed late to avoid a year in Korea. His 4th, and current is a full year. From what I hear from other wives, this is typical. But, DH is in the 3rd Infantry Division, and they pretty much deploy every other year. So while its typical for us, it might not be true for others. I am not trying to scare you, I am just being honest.
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Registered: 11-09-2005
In reply to: armywife303
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 10:27pm

what do you do to pass time when they are away?

We have kids, so this is fairly easy for me. The kids keep me plenty busy. If you don't have wee ones yet, it's a good time to find a new hobby or two. :)

Since you move to be with them you dont know anyone. Is it easy to make friends? Or do you go back home for awhile?

This really depends on your personality. I had a hard time making friends (we were at Ft Hood for 5 years, I didn't meet anyone until 3 years in). Online, I'm social as can be, but IRL, I'm really shy (until I get to know someone lol) to the point of having anxiety attacks.

Personally, I have stayed where I was during deployments. This time, my mother moved in with us while he's gone, and OMG she's driving me CRAZY! Never again!!!!!!




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Registered: 07-12-2007
In reply to: armywife303
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 10:31pm
This deployment, I went to school. Some states, like Georgia have free tuition for military spouses. I was lucky enough to benefit from the CAA so I moved back to my hometown, which was only 2 hours away. Any further and I wouldn't have moved. But to be honest, I wish I would have just stay put. It's fun to be around friends and family for that year, but then you guys just have to move back when he gets home. I ended up moving back early. But if you look around, you can find grants and tuition assistance if school is an interest to you.
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Registered: 07-22-2010
In reply to: armywife303
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 10:35pm

Thanks you guys. its helped a lot.


A bit different from what the recruiter said... they said he would get deployed every 3 years!

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Registered: 10-05-2007
In reply to: armywife303
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 10:46pm
That's what it's *supposed* to be but it very rarely happens from what I've seen. We really are the exception with my DH being home 3 years. He would have been gone a year after getting back (and he would be just returning now, actually) if it wasn't for crazy circumstances getting in the way. I would go into it fully thinking that deployments will be more often that every 3 years like the recruiter told you.

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Registered: 03-16-2004
In reply to: armywife303
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 11:26pm

I had never heard that they are suppose to be deployed every 3 years.