SAFETY QUESTION (a little freaked out)..

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SAFETY QUESTION (a little freaked out)..
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Fri, 04-11-2003 - 2:55pm
i was reading a website for military families and came across their safety and crime prevention page and one of the things they listed is that offpost military families should not put up yellow ribbons, flags etc.bc it shows that we have a deployed soldier. is this accurate? do i take down flags and such? how do we show outward support for our loved ones without feeling like it puts us in danger or something? sorry but it freaked me out i am not sleeping as it is, any feedback is always appreciated thanks

rece

(proud army wife)
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Fri, 04-11-2003 - 3:00pm
Personally, I think everyone, military spouse or not, displays flags or yellow ribbons. It doesn't necessarily mean your loved one is gone. (My flag is out and DH is home.)

But at the same time you don't want to draw more attention to yourself. You can never be too safe. If you live in a military community, well I think you're pretty safe. But if you're off post, then it might be a good idea to take them down.

Hugs,

Stacey

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Fri, 04-11-2003 - 3:47pm
There are a lot of people in my area that all have up flags & yellow ribbons (which is GREAT to see!). I wouldn't hang any of those 'branch specific' flags, but I don't see the harm in a regular flag or yellow ribbon. Our local tv & radio stations have been giving away yellow ribbons (& I am a good ways from any post or base) so I know that 98% of the ribbons I see do not have family members in the service. But, it makes me proud & thankful to see all the support that most of the community is giving them!

Jenn

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Fri, 04-11-2003 - 5:44pm
Hi there.

I decided to put yellow ribbons on my indoor plants and not my tree outdoors. Although most of the husbands in the neighbourhood are gone already and some people do have ribbons outside I wasn't sure how comfortable I would be broadcasting it that he is gone.

Just a suggestion.

Tania

ps- but I am not taking down my American flag or my service flag from the window. They will always be up.

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Fri, 04-11-2003 - 9:06pm
I personally watch what I put out. My dh was away a good part of last year. I had my American flag out -- but displayed more inside. I tried to make things look as normal as possible -- to not draw attention to the house. My close neighbors knew he was gone -- think they secretly watched out for me. Anyhow, now everyone is doing the yellow ribbons so I don't think that your house would be pinpointed out. I also want to get a flag that says we support our troops -- but I have not displayed our AF flag unless dh was home. Good Luck on your decision. Dana
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Fri, 04-11-2003 - 9:37pm
thanks tania,

hey it looks like you and i are living in the same place cool!!! have a nice evening

rece
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Fri, 04-11-2003 - 9:42pm
thanks dana ,

and everyone else who responded i think i will leave my flag on my door and you are right there are yellow ribbons everywhere even at my dd school so i think i will go forward without fear thanks ladies you are all sweethearts

love

rece
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Fri, 04-11-2003 - 9:42pm
We always fly a flag, so it doesn't mean that DH is deployed. That's true for a lot of people. I'm staying away from yellow ribbons and service flags though. Nothing says, "FEMALE ALONE IN THE HOUSE" quite like those things do.

Fly your flag though!

:) Melissa

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Sat, 04-12-2003 - 2:07pm
I have a service flag that I hang inside my home. My reason is mostly because no one here knows what it is for. When I move down though, I will always show my service flag but I too will not have yellow ribbons outside my home. Then again, if the neighbourhood is full of them it is a bit different. It will be a matter of judgement on your part.

I hope you are doing okay. And yes, littlegrnfrog is in your area! Another Canadian has crossed over. lol

Huge hugs,

Susan

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Sat, 04-12-2003 - 3:52pm
I would do whatever you feel comfortable doing. Here in town, there are flags and yellow ribbons everywhere, not just on military homes. Lots of civilans have yellow ribbons up. But the service flag, to me, is something I would not display for the public to see.

Janet

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Sun, 04-13-2003 - 6:04pm
Well we live in an apartment community. There is one other guy upstairs who's stationed at the same base my husband is at. My husband is not here and I do have flags that I printed from the computer up in every window and my sister help me put yellow ribbons tied into bows in the windows also. I am planning on keeping the ribbons up until the war is over and the flags will stay up until we move. But everyone who lives in our building (the complex is broken up into different buildings) knows my husband is in the Coast Guard because of the Coast Guard sticker on the car. :) You know the one that lets you get on base. They don't know my husband's movements but they have to notice that he's not coming in and out of the house with us when we go galavanting around. I guess you just have to use your own judgment. I feel pretty safe here so don't mind putting the stuff up. If you don't feel safe then I'd say take them down. But if your neighbors know you they are going to know you're ties to the military. As for a casual person coming into your neighborhood to do harm to spouses I don't think it's that easy to tell anymore. There are a lot of flags and ribbons up at people's homes here I know the people in them aren't in the military. Good luck with whatever you choose.

Kaleolani