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Mon, 04-14-2003 - 5:34pm
well, I just got back from Germany.I spent a week visiting my husband who is stationed there.I was hoping that when I was there we might get housing, but instead I had to stay with him in his barracks room for a week and we still have no anwers.Its not like we are just waiting for housing, he isn't even on the housing list and he has been there a month now.I guess because of some glitch he needs to extend his ETS date out a month and there is only one guy who can do this for him, but this guy is being really lazy about it and won't do it.My husband has tried talking to his company commander,but this girl is 20 years old and fresh out of ROTC, basically she has no idea what she is doing and is no help (she is more concerned with painting their unit walls pink than actually handle business).They also won't give him any information on how I can start shipping our household goods or ship our car.They basically won't do anything to help him there or answer any of his questions.There is a whole new apartment building opening up in four days and if he was on the housing list we could get in no problem, but he isn't on the list and we will have to wait for the next housing that comes up, whenver that is.I am just so completely frustrated right now.My husband and I have been in the army for over four years, but just the reserve side.We are new to this whole active duty thing and don't really know how to handle any of this.Sorry I've bitched so much, but I had to get this out.

Brooke

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Mon, 04-14-2003 - 5:59pm
Brooke!

Lets form a club cuz i am right there with you! aargghhh! My husband is AF. We are waiting for him to pass an indoctrination test. I am not sure exactly when he will pass but sometime next week. (they won't tell us what day) If he passes, then we are supposed to move to spokane. And they will send my dh down to help me move, but only for four days (including a day and a half drive to get there and they will take at least three days to pack us up...you do the math...)

They won't tell me WHEN the move to spokane will happen, but i am supposed to fill out the paperwork to request the move now cuz it takes 7 days for them to get us on the move schedule. And I THINK we are supposed to move before the month is out...but i don't even know that for sure.

every time i ask a question someone gets p.o'd and dh gets in trouble for assuming we are moving and that he will pass (which they have told us not to do....but still start preparing???????? argh) so i quit asking. and that means just sitting here with no answers. i have a career myself here. and an oppty for a job transfer only if i jump on it... and the clock is going..tick tick tick...

i think the thing here is to have faith. the important thing is that we get to be with our husbands...and the rest will work out. It will be okay!! they wont make you sleep out under the stars and i guess they wont send my husband down here to pack and move if we dont have a truck to move us ...right? right? lol!!! :-)


 

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Mon, 04-14-2003 - 10:19pm
Hi there. I'm glad you got to go visit your DH. That's too bad about housing.

I shared your post with my DH to try to get some insight for you because I thought I was missing something. What is the reason he can't go to housing and put his name on the list (with his orders in hand, of course)? There were a couple other things that were a little "off" in your post, so maybe there's a miscommunication somewhere along the line.

Have your DH keep trying to get these things done. It's really up to him to make things happen. No one will do it for him (as you see). It takes a lot of persistence to get what you need sometimes.

Good luck!

:) melissa

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Tue, 04-15-2003 - 4:20am
Brooke,

Why did he go to his Plt Leader or Company Commander? He needs to just take a walk over to his S1 and get the paperwork started. He can ask his Plt Sgt for help and I am sure he will get help. If they don't help him then he needs to continue up his chain of command until he gets answers. I find it hard to believe no one will help him.

Were you married when he got his orders? If so you should have been on them which. IF you are not then he needs to add you on to his orders and that will take about 30 days.

I can't understand why it seems to take so long. Last time dh came without me he was able to get us on the housing list the next day. We arrived 2 months after he left.

Glad you enjoyed your visit with him!

Rose

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Tue, 04-15-2003 - 12:10pm
Hi!

The reason he can't get his name on the list is because he has to extend his ETS date out to meet the 36 month tour w/dependents.The sgt who does the reenlistments in his unit will not extend his date out for him, he says that he has too much to do and will get to it when he can.My husband can't extend his date himself, this guy has to prepare a packet for him.So, basically my husband can't do anything right now.His company commander won't talk to the reenlistment sgt nor will his first sgt.My husband is in a really unorganized unit, basically everyone is in Iraq right now so they just have other soldiers filling in for those in charge and they don't know what they are doing.Hopefully I hear some good news soon!

Brooke

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Tue, 04-15-2003 - 12:50pm
What a mess. It sounds like your DH has only spoken to his platoon leader, not his company commander. (Platoon leaders are lieutenants just out of college.. company commanders are captains who have been in several years.) If the platoon leader won't help (which it sounds like she isn't) and the 1st Sergeant won't, then he does need to talk to the company commander.

I've never heard of so many people not willing to do something that is needed. There's a missing piece somewhere.

He just needs to go up the chain of command.

Wishing you luck!

:) Melissa

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Tue, 04-15-2003 - 3:13pm
Ok here is what my dh said.

1. They can't refuse to file the extension paperwork for your dh as that is their job. That is an IG complaint.

2. Your dh needs to go to the SGM or Rear Detachment SGM and lodge his complaint. If he has spoken to his section SGT, Plt SGT, 1st SGT, Company Commander then the next step is his SGM. That is his Chain of Command. IF after speaking with his SGM he gets no action taken then he can file a IG complaint.

3. He doesn't care if the unit is in Iraq or up the street the rear detachment people are supposed to do their jobs and if they are not it needs to be fixed. He realizes your dh might not be in a position to make that change but bringing it to the attention of the appropriate people will help.

4. He doesn't understand how he came over on a 2 year tour with having dependants. How did you not end up on his orders? As long as you were married when he got these orders you should have been on them and he'd have been able to do the extension in the states before coming over.

5. He feels there is something missing. This really doesn't make any sense to him as he has seen even the most "ate up" units assist their soldiers.

I hope this helps in some way. Rarely does he look at things on here because I can usually answer them lol but this one has me baffled!

Hugs

Rose

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Tue, 04-15-2003 - 4:04pm
Rose,

Thanks for all the information, I'll pass it on to my husband.I'm not sure how long his tour was in months,but I guess he only has to extend it out a month to meet the 36 month obligation.To answer your questions, yes we were married before he left but I was on his orders as deferred travel..so I can't move until he got housing.The reason this was set up that way was because he was coming off the national guard to active duty and had to do two weeks of in processing at Ft.Jackson before he went to Germany, so thats why I wasn't allowed to go with.And yes, there is something really strange going on here.I don't think its that my husband isn't doing anything to take care of it, I just think that because he has never been active duty before he really doesn't know how to handle all of this.Supposedly the paperwork should be ready tomarrow and then he can get his extension done and then go over to housing.His first sgt told him that they'd "try" to get this all done tomarrow.I told him that there is no "trying" anymore..it will get done tomarrow or he has file a complaint of some kind, because this is getting ridiculous.Mabye there is something missing, but I really don't know because I'm not there.But I will tell my husband all the information you gave me.Thanks again!!!!!!!!!!!!

Brooke

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Tue, 04-15-2003 - 4:18pm
Definetely have your dh stay on them. That makes sense about the going from NG to Active. Things do work differently but he'll have to get pretty ummm forceful sometimes in order to make things happen. His unit definetely needs a reminder that they are to serve in the capacity they are supposed to rather than taking a vacation while the others are off in another country.

Good luck with this! Where in Germany is your dh?

Rose

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Tue, 04-15-2003 - 6:24pm
thanks for all your help! he's stationed in Kitzingen
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Wed, 04-16-2003 - 2:54am
That is where I AM! You were right here at one of the two bases lol and I was right here! That is weird!

If you would like to email me I can try to help. We have terrific connections here!

Rosemary

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