There isn't support here anymore.....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
There isn't support here anymore.....
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 8:07am
I *finally* found my post from yesterday. When I did, it said there had been 48 views of my post, and two people posted to it. THANK YOU to Chris for the support. The other post was just a question about where I was going to be stationed. I came here for support and I have not been getting it lately. This is not the first time this has happened. There have been quite a few posts in the past that I barely received a response to. Maybe I am just being a big baby, but what's the point in coming here if there isn't much support. I am going to start looking for a new support system. I will still be here, but not as much.

~Joni

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 8:21am
I wouldn't get upset. I have had a hard time getting used to the boards so I was mainly just trying to read and not post. I am trying to learn the features. I have tried the different options and still have mixed feeling about it. The thing that bothers me is if I view the board in outline form the emoticon's don't appear. I use to try to look for sad faces and questions first and try to post to them if I could.

Yesterday, I think was a bad day. I think lots of us were having problems getting things to load so I wouldn't get to upset. (I post on multiple boards and on each board I post there were a few that had problems getting here) The thing with this new format is if you really had a question or concern that you need an answer too you can go back and post a reply to yourself and bring the post back to the top of the board.

My only vent right now is I still haven't figured out how to tell which posts I have read. I don't know if I am missing a feature or not)

Anyway, I just wouldn't get upset about the board since Ivillage changed so that may have changed the number of posts that people have been responding too. Sending hugs to you.

~Vicky~

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 8:24am
Joni, don't leave just yet, everyone is still working out this new format and feeling our way through with our eyes closed. I think things will get back to the way we need them to be, but please don't give up on the board just yet.


HUGS

Mic

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 8:26am
Vicki,

Don't know how to do it in outline format, but on the board if you look to the right of the post there's a red dot next to the ones you haven't read yet (or if they have a response you haven't read yet), provided you are signed in. Hope this helps.

Mic
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 8:36am
Thanks!!! I did notice that and trying hard to get used to this. I just refuse to give up!!!!!!!!!!! I am stubborn!!!!!! LOL

One of my favorite quotes is when life throws you lemons make lemonade and I am going to turn this board into a lemonade stand. Thirsty anyone !!!!!! (My twisted humor coming out)

~Vicky~

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Registered: 03-21-2003
Fri, 03-28-2003 - 8:41am
Joni, please don't leave us. I am sorry no one responded to your post. I myself have been having a hard time manuevering the board, only because I haven't been feeling well, and just can't sit at the computer for any length of time right now. If you need support please email me, I would be glad to talk to you whenever you like.

my email is usmcwife6869@hotmail.com

my AIM is Alay6869

Sheli

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 8:57am
Joni,

I am sorry you don't feel like you are getting much support here right now but those views might not have even been from anyone who post on our board. This board gets looked at more often by people who just lurk than people who actually post. You are going to see those views higher than the post always.

As for people replying to your post there are always good days and bad. I have had post go virtually unnoticed. You have to take it all with a grain of salt. People are confused by these new boards and sometimes frustrated.

But I do think plenty of support is offered here and I hope you decide to stick around.

Hugs

Rose

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 9:13am
Sometimes that happens. And it happens to all of us. You're not being singled out. The other CLs and I used to laugh about how our posts were invisible. There was a good four month period when if one of us CLs posted, no one would respond but other CLs! LOL, talk about feeling left out! (That's changed. There are different people here now, etc.)

Anyway, like I said, you're not being singled out. Besides that, we just switched to these new boards two or three days ago. While you may have a handle on them, a lot of us don't yet, so I'd give it more time.

Plus, ask yourself this, how many posts do you respond to in a day? Do you offer as much support as you seek? You're only human, too, right? Let's be fair. A lot of times people only feel comfortable answering posts by people who have responded to THEM. They feel like they "know" those people. If you don't respond to a lot of different people, you can't really expect them to respond to you. It all depends on people's comfort levels.

I don't know of anyone who answers every single post, nor should anyone ever feel that they have to. Some posts just get missed sometimes.

But, if you feel that this board is not supportive enough for you. I understand. It seems that this has been brewing with you for a long time and it's time it came to a head.

Melissa


Edited 3/28/2003 2:57:04 PM ET by cl-melisca

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 9:14am
BTW, I noticed that if you use the regular view and not the outline view, you don't know how many views you got. Maybe that will decrease stress a bit?

S

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 9:30am
I'm sorry Joni that you don't feel like you are getting the support you were expecting. I believe one reason you haven't had much responses is because of the new board. Everyone is still trying to figure it out, it may take a little while but it will be back to normal. And also like Melissa asked, do you respond to every post as well? Probably not, as we all don't have a whole lot of time, especially when we have little ones running around. I try to as much as I can, but some days I can't. The only time I am really able to check the board is while I'm at work, and I have been trying to cut down on that because my boss has been getting on us about being on the internet at work, plus I have tons to do.

You may be having a bad day. I mostly post responses as I really don't have alot of news to talk about, however, when I do actually post some news I don't get much responses either. It is always nice to get responses cuz then you know people are thinking of you, however, I don't make comments about it because I know that people are busy with their own lives.

I'm sorry again for how you feel.

Michelle


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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 9:39am
Joni~



Im sorry you dont feel like there is much support on this board. I know I personally haven't been posting as much the past few days but I too have a lot on my mind. I dont know where my husband is in Iraq & have been a big emotional mess. In the past year he's been gone 9 out of 12 mos. He deployed to Kuwait last year 2 1/2 mos after I moved here---we weren't married yet & I knew very few people & didn't have children to look after & keep me sane (or drive me insane whichever!). All of my family is in New England & being far away from them at such a time made things harder. He came home at thanksgiving & left a little over a month later---in that month we got married & tried to get everything squared away before he left again. I guess what I'm trying to say is we all have stress in our lives---both now & before this war broke out. But we are ALL here for you but we all need YOUR support too! I had a horrific weekend---guys from DH's old unit were shot & 2 others injured. Things are rough. But today I'm doing better & have a better outlook on life & what's going on around me & in the world. Incidentally, Ive been looking for you on AIM but haven't seen you logged on---I was hoping to talk to you.

Please give the new board time---I'm slowly getting used to it & while yes, I did like the old format better this one isn't so bad & like a lot of people have said--we're mw's--we're used to change!

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