Update with my boyfriend, Questions about being a military wife - He's in the Navy!

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Registered: 07-18-2008
Update with my boyfriend, Questions about being a military wife - He's in the Navy!
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Wed, 05-25-2011 - 11:31pm

Hi!

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Registered: 02-01-2007

Hi there. Let me see if I can answer some of your questions. I am a Navy wife of almost 18 years. Yikes! how did that happen? : ) Anyway. First a little marriage advice. Don't rush. Take some time to be sure this is really what both of you want and that you are both aware of the additional challenges facing a military couple.

As for the Navy questions a lot is going to depend on what field he is going in to. Do you happen to know what his rate will be? His rate is his job in the Navy. There will not be a lot of time with him after bootcamp graduation. They do kind of go straight from that to their first school. My husbands first school was pretty restrictive and he did not have much freedom. I actually don't know if I could have moved with him for that school as we were not married at the time. My husband had three schools for his rate and I could have been with him for the second and third. I think the rule is a school has to be at least 6 months for them to move the family.



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Registered: 10-22-2008

I agree with Jenny, don't rush it!

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Registered: 07-18-2008

I'm 28 and he's 26.

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Registered: 07-18-2008

Hi, thanks for all the information!

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Registered: 11-08-2006
I totally second what Jess said.

This is a huge step that shouldn't be rushed. If I remember correctly, you two haven't been dating that long. Don't let outside circumstances dictate what happens in your life. You have plenty of time to get married. It doesn't need to happen right away and it wouldn't change that much right now.

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Registered: 10-22-2008

Sorry if I implied you were young.

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Registered: 07-18-2008

Yes, I agree....

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Registered: 02-01-2007

I can tell from your posts that you are giving this a great deal of thought and that is so smart on your part. There is so much to consider before any couple gets married and the military really does add a huge extra on top of all that. I am going to ask you to never listen to your friend who divorced her sailor. I have to admit the whole all sailors are party happy thing gets on my nerves. It is no different than any other job. There is nothing about the Navy or any other branch of service that makes a guy a jerk. They are or they aren't.