Which spouse's career is more important?

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Registered: 05-15-2009
Which spouse's career is more important?
Sun, 02-17-2013 - 5:03pm

Traditionally, military wives have been encouraged to find "portable" careers (teaching, nursing, etc.) since it's a given that servicemembers relocate every few years.  

In a military marriage where both husband and wife have a career, which spouse should concede to the other's career?  Is it possible for both to maintain a career?  The author of this article and her husband decided to temporarily maintain two separate residences so both of them can focus on their careers but stay together.


How do you handle career conflicts?

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Registered: 03-06-1998
Tue, 02-26-2013 - 9:48pm

I was active duty myself for the first few years of our marriage and we both knew that there was a chance that we could end up stationed apart from each other.  In the end, it was I who got out, after 13 years.  For medical reasons partially, but also because it was hard enough being an Active Duty woman, married to an Active Duty Spouse and raising kids. When the opportunity came to get out, I took it.  I had a job in the Air Force that was marketable to the civilian sector, and after a short diversion working in another field, I did spend a few years working in medical Administration.  However when his career took us to South Carolina I had a one year hiatus from work because the job situation was very hard.  Now that he is retired, I am not working in my field at all, as all I could find was part time work, commuting at least 30 miles in either way, and with gas prices as high as they have been, that was not prudent, so I am working a job I love, for good money and do not actually miss the medical field as much as I thought I would.