Who Has A Husband That Is

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Who Has A Husband That Is
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 1:06pm
Overseas and is dealing with a husband being in or around this conflict? i have read some posts and i don't see a whole lot that are in that situation and was just curious, I myself am dealing with it and would love to see how many others are dealing with it as well, if you are in this situation how are you? Are you getting support from family and friends or are you alone in it and trying to deal as best as possible, i don't live where family is and i don't really know anyone around me so i deal with everything all alone every time DH deploys which is a constant thing, i have learned to deal alone and this board also helps if i feel sad one day i will come and post or i can always call my family and friends , so what are you doing to get you through?

I have had a few mini breakdowns myself but with my DHs line of work i am a bit more used to the deployments and the danger that always goes with his type of deployments but i think it takes more of a toll to see it on the news and stuff.

If you need to talk or whatever any of you can e-mail me lillie55200273@yahoo.com

Lisa

Proud Army Wife & SAHM Of 2

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 2:29pm
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 2:32pm
Yes !! I think i have gone nutty or something!! oh man , can someone lone me a new brain i think mine has gone bad!!

Lisa

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 2:54pm
Hugs Lisa,

I know how you feel. My husband is over there as well. I am lucky because I have my family here. And I have made it a point to be active with our unit. I know a lot of people prefer not to be involved, but I have found that it helps me keep fairly calm and a bit more patient. I also then feel like I am a part of it, instead of feeling left behind.

Please feel free to email me anytime amharkness@yahoo.com. I know night time is when I have a hard time coping. And I usually then break down.

Also, you need to get back on AIM and Yahoo, so you can chat with us. www.aim.com to get aol instant messenger, its free. I am AnnaHarkness for AIM. And Yahoo messenger is free too, amharkness for that one. I am here everynight, and I will tell you now, these ladies are what I need to get through this.

Hugs,

Anna

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 3:02pm
My dh is overseas for the second time and so I know what you mean. I live far from family, but I don't mind they stress me out more than the news does. My dh is infantry and so I know how it feels to worry. I havne't heard from him and so I tend to stress out over little things. I don't rely on the frg group, not saying they are bad but I feel that they gossip to much and talk about things that should not be talked about. I'm not a gossiper or do I feel that a person should talk behind one anothers back for any reason. So I don't rely on frg support. I have good friends that I have made in the area that I am living in now and I think they are more understanding than my family could on what to ask or not to ask. I feel very fortunate to have made a very best friend. She may live 40 minutes from me but I know if I need someone she is there and I can call night or day. If the worst happens she told me from the begginning that she would be there through thick and thin. I have made it through one cambat deployment and I will make it through the next and all that follow after that. I try to stay busy and not watch the news. Thinking of seriously blocking cnn and all the rest of the news only channels from my tv until my dh is home from war. I don't them to tell me how things are going I don't want to know. I know my dh is coming home and he will be safe though his job is very dangerous I have faith. I have found comfort and happiness since I have been posting on the mw board. If it wasn't for my best friend I wouldn't have known anything about this place. In time this conflict will be over and the guys will be home safe. Keep strong and keep saying a prayer for them.

Samantha SAHM of Jay and PROUD Army wife of Mikey

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 3:14pm
hello i am a proud army wife to sgt morgan i live in colorado and my husband is leaving next week for war he told me he will be on the front line and not to worry, but of course i am very worried but he and all of our soldiers are brave and strong and i know we will be victoriuos .i don`t have family here at all but do have their support always. let`s all keep positive thoughts and prayerful hearts in these trying times love to all

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 3:32pm
My husband just left early this morning for Kuwait. This is our first time dealing with being apart even though he has been in the army for the last ten years. My daughters (5 and 7) from a previous marriage are absolutely devasted and we are trying to deal with it as well as we can.. I find that I am extremely emotional but its partly because I am expecting again. Our baby is due May 21st and I am very worried about doing this myself in an area that I do not know anyone at all. We just moved from IL to TX a couple of months ago. It has to get better though!

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 4:36pm
My DH is over there. Unfortunatley, I am not close to a military post. I live close to family right now. I say it that way b/c no one around here is going through the same situaion as I am. All the questions and sympathy make it hard. My DD is having a hard time at school to, she is the only one with a dad in the military. A couple of older children have come up to her and said they saw on the news that her dad died. I just feel if we were in a military community it would be a little easier. Don't get me wrong my family is great but they don't really understand, they are either asking too many questions or avoiding me b/c they don't know what to say.

I have times that I do okay. I have my breakdowns as well. Things are getting harder now. I know he's on the move and I have no contact with him.

If you want to talk, I would be more than happy to. In fact, it would probably help to talk to other military wives. My e-mail is cskidis@hotmail.com. You take care of yourself! My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours as well.

Charady

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 6:43pm
My husband is on his 2nd deployment to the Gulf & is in the thick of it right now. I have my days where I dont think I can stand it another minute but the past few days have been good for me. Ive been staying away from the tv as much as possible & trying to stay busy.

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 11:00pm
My husband is also there, and I am 100% certain he is in Iraq. Where, I don't know. And it scares me so much. Ever since this war started, I have pretty much cried at least once a day. I don't know many of the other wives on base; I met a few of them before, but I don't know them well. My sister-in-law is in the same boat as me, with the exception that she is pregnant and due in May and will probably deliver their first child without her husband. My husband's aunt is a military wife; she actually just called with within the last hour to tell me she was thinking about me. Her husband is a newly retired general who has served in the military for a long time. It was nice to know someone was thinking about me and knows how I feel. But I still go to work and have to concentrate. In my line of work, you have too. But I know that my reaction and crying to this is all normal for this situation. It is NOT easy for anyone, and you have to react to it somehow. It would be unnatural if you didn't. But I just take it one day at a time, because that's all I can do. So that's my story.

Varsha
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Sat, 03-29-2003 - 9:23am
I want to let you all know that your families are in my prayers. My dh is not away right not but was in the region this time last year. I know how hard it is to not have the support at least from the FRG. I do have family around but since they have not experienced what I have -- they did not "seem to get it." Anyhow, a biggie for me was to not watch the news. I think I would have a hard time with that now -- it's almost like you want to watch --just to see if you can see your soldier -- but it's scary to see what is going on. I call it the "double edge sword." I just always tried to keep busy -- even if I did not feel like it --- and I am not going to lie it just plain "sucks" but it is done for the name of freedom and that made me feel a little better. Good Luck -- there is a good support group here and that definately helps.

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