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|Tue, 02-24-2009 - 2:40pm|
Hi gals! I'm not a regular member of this board, as my hubby is just an EMT (not for lack of trying - but I won't go into the very annoying politics of our local FD), but I need some advice that I'm hoping someone here can help me with. Warning, this is long!
Lately I have become *extremely* resentful of DH's schedule (24/48). We have two very young children (an almost 2 year old and an 8 month old) and I work full-time (M-F, 8 to 5) as well. The kids are in center-based daycare, and we can't just pay for part-time, so they go every day, even if DH is home. So that leaves him with 3, sometimes 4 days a week, where he is at home, alone, just "hanging out," allllll day long.
I'm resisting the urge to just stick my tongue out at him and tell him it's "NO FAIR!" :o)
Seriously though - what can I do to get over this? I mean I have no major complaints about him or our marriage, and I know this is something that isn't in his control - the schedule ain't gonna change - so this is something *I* have to fix. But how? I'm just so angry all the time at the fact that I get ZERO time to myself, ever (seriously, my daughter even follows me into the bathroom), while he gets to just lay around and watch tv and relax all day, three or four days a week.
Anybody have any advice? Anybody feel the same way? Or am I just a horrible, selfish woman? We started to have a conversation about it last week - I told him how stressed out I am - and he said it seemed like I would only be happy if he were "miserable" too - which isn't it - I just wish he knew how hard it is for me to get up with the baby all night when he's at the station, get myself ready for work with two kids clawing at my legs, drop them at daycare, head to work for 9 hours, and then try to call him on my lunch break and have to hear about his morning nap (!!!). UGH!
Someone help me before I lose it. :o) Thanks ladies!