Need help and advice, boyfriend is thinking about accepting a position at a very busy fire departmen

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Need help and advice, boyfriend is thinking about accepting a position at a very busy fire departmen
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Tue, 03-08-2011 - 2:32pm

I just want to thank you all in advance for any advance you can give me. I am truly at a loss for words and really need help. Just a little background history of my boyfriend and I. We have been living together in a condo we bought for the past three years. We both have stable jobs and are in our early 30's finally making decent money and are able to live comfortably. We are on the track of getting married in the next 9 months or so.

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Registered: 05-15-2009
Welcome to the board! I'm not a FF wife, but I'm sure they will be along to give you some advice. Is the 48 hour on-duty schedule permanent? Or is it something that all new recruits have to go through at first?

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Hey Jen

The ff's normal schedule is 24 on, 48 off. So they work every 3rd day. It's a pretty standard schedule. Very large departments and mostly east coast departments have day and night shifts but for the most part they are on for 24 then off for two days.

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I am Sara (30) married to Kelly(31) for 10 years.

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He's going to be doing something he loves, that he can be proud of, that you can all be proud of. If he doesn't follow his dream it will not bode well for your marriage, and yes it would be HUGE. It takes years for some of these guys to get on a department. He must have something special because to get on in CA where we live is no walk in the park. It took my husband hundreds of tests and 12 years to get on.

The pay cut will be temporary, all jobs have some kind of danger, you will get used to the schedule be excited to see him when he's off and grow to like your free time, when you start a family, your children will grow up with his schedule and you will learn to work around it. This year we had Christmas on the 26th. My husband worked Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. We went to the station and had a wonderful dinner with all of them it was great! Our children are grown and so very proud of their dad, they go to the station with me on holidays too.

My husband has been a fireman for many years, has been like all the others in many dangerous situations but he loves his job. I know he's good at it and would not put himself or his co workers in a situation that could get them hurt. If something did happen he would be right where he wants to be doing what he loves. We only socialize with a couple of his co workers and their wives. Some guys only hang around with their fire buddies and their families.

I will never forget the day he got the letter instructing him to come to orientation. He made it through the tower and was hired, graduation was one of the proudest days of our lives. It was tough but we made it, you will too if you look ahead.

Once your fiance has experience he can apply at other departments, many do.

Trust me it isn't always easy and we have had our problems, you will find a rhythm. There was never a decision to go over at our house, I worked two jobs to make ends meet, my husband worked during the day and took fire science courses at night. We had two small children so I continued to work at night when he was going through the tower, we were in it together. The women I know were supportive too, there was never another way of thinking. It's an admiral profession.

Your concerns are valid, I think we have all had the danger ones but you have to trust in his good choices and his engineer and captain to guide him along. As long as he works hard, listens and learns he will do okay.

Believe me sticking pays off. The department will be good to you, it is my husbands job but it isn't the center of our lives it's a part of it. My husband now makes really good money and at this time has a secure job. You have to let him go for it otherwise he will second guess it forever. Don't let it ruin you, you can make it. These men and women are born to be firefighters, it's in their blood..



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Registered: 02-11-2007

Thank you for your advice to our newcomer with questions ;)

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