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|Fri, 02-25-2011 - 2:41am|
Hi Ladies, I'm engaged to a wonderful man who is an EMT, trying to become a Firefighter, doing an internship with a fire department currently, and he's hoping to head to paramedic school in a year or two. I just found this board tonight because I'm so frustrated about our situation, I googled fire fighter wives' support groups. FFing doesn't run in my family, I haven't really known FFers ever, so I'm still trying to figure things out and be supportive for my FI. He's on his weekly 24 internship shift with the FF department tonight but since he's an unpaid intern he's not supposed to ever text or call anyone ever - I get they shouldn't be slacking in alertness and duties. Most of the places have been understanding that he has a FI (we don't live together and our commute is 40-50 minutes one way to see each other so it doesn't happen nearly as often as we'd like; seriously, he spends more time with the people he's interning for each week than he is with me) and he is able to make a quick 10 minute call to check in. Once he snuck into the bathroom for five minutes to say hi. Tonight, apparently the station he's at (it changes each week) has "weird vibes" so he doesn't want to risk calling. I don't want him to risk it either, but I'm just so incredibly frustrated that he would even have to be worried about a 10 minute conversation at 10pm at night after all the chores and everything are done. Does the Fire Service try to break up relationships?
I read through some of the posts here and there's a lot of talk about the "lifestyle" of FFers and their families. I'm starting to get a little panicky about what that means because right now, things suck, and he's not even a FF yet. I'd really like to hear more about the lifestyle from the wives' perspectives because FI wasn't going to be a FF until I encouraged him to pursue his passion after 7 months of dating...Now that we're really starting to get into it (1.5 years later), I don't know if I can do this though. Thanks in advance.