Help with police officer bf
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|Sun, 01-05-2014 - 4:03pm|
I am new here and have only been reading posts rather than posting anything.
I decided to seek your help regarding my b/f who is an officer.
We have known each other for about 4.5 years. We are always on and off and it is because he seems to always run away when things go well. He is a commitment phobe and has let me know that he has problems with commitment. He is a great guy - intelligent, kind, family oriented, kind, interesting, funny, etc. I love spending time with him and I don't see myself dating anhybody else. We break up and both try to date others but we end up getting back together since we both have feelings for one another. He is a bit insecure and thinks i will eventually leave him.
He has a hard time showing emotion, does not talk much on days off, likes to just lay ont he couch watch tv and relax. In the beginning, when we started dating, things started going too serious, too fast. He freaked out and ran. I understand that his job is difficult since i work in law enforcement as a civilian and have friends who are officers. I enjoy just spending time with him at home and I am not the type of person who needs to constantely go out.
Las week when we got together again, he let me know that he is not cheating on me but he does not know how long it will last. I told him that I really missed him and he told me that, "nobody misses him". He sometimes talks about dying and tells me that if he gets married, I iwll eventually divorce him. He also believes that he cannot be a good provider since he does not make enough money.
I love him and would like to have a relationship with him. I don't pressure him about anything more.
How should I act with him? Breaking up is not an option - I still have feelings for him and it is difficult to let go of something good. Any other suggestions?
Thank you very much in advance!