I'm Lonely and Done!

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Registered: 12-06-2011
I'm Lonely and Done!
Tue, 12-06-2011 - 10:41am

Hi everyone - I've been married 20 years to my officer husband.

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Registered: 05-15-2009
Wed, 12-07-2011 - 11:21am
(((hugs))) I'm really sorry that you're going through this. It does sound like there's a lot of stress in your marriage. You mentioned that your husband has been going to counseling. Have you been going too? How do you feel about this other man? Do you want to try to work it out with your husband or do you want to end it? If he's serious about wanting to work on the marriage, then he needs to back off with checking up on you after you go to sleep and leave this other guy alone (who sounds like he's backing off on his own). Is there any trust left between the two of you?

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Registered: 01-06-2000
Tue, 12-13-2011 - 11:57am

I don't have any advice, but I wanted to send you a few {{{HUGS}}} and encourage you to get him involved in marriage counseling if at all possible.

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Registered: 01-27-2012
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 9:27pm

Wow, you are in a very volatile situation I think.