Engaged, confused, sad, anxious

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Registered: 04-28-2003
Engaged, confused, sad, anxious
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Sun, 03-30-2014 - 7:49am

I've been with my partner for nearly 8 years and we are due to get married in 6 months. I should start by saying I love him so much, but recently I have been feeling confused. Up until a week ago I was blissfully happy in my little bubble. however on  rare night out  I met some random guy who I flirted with a lot. It felt great  and it made me realise that I miss that excitement. My Oh has been annoying me more than usual. We fell out last night . I want to reconnect with him but  not sure how. I love him and I want to marry him, I'm just freaking out and hoping that these feelings are just me being anxious, rather than falling out of love with him. I guess I feel I be lost my self a little and flirting with the random guy made me feel like the old me. Before I got so excited about our wedding,  up these recent feelings are clouding my thoughts. After our fall out last night, I tried to kiss him and told him I love him and he didn't say it back. I just feel sad. I miss him 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 03-30-2014 - 12:37pm

I don't think it's rare for people who are about to get married to wonder if they are doing the right thing, but I wonder about your statement that you feel you lost yourself a little--why do you feel that way and what do you think your fiance has to do with that?  Is he someone who is controlling or who doesn't let you do things you want to do?  Do you feel you had to compromise a lot?  Why did you decide to get married now?

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Registered: 04-28-2003
Sun, 03-30-2014 - 1:26pm

I haven't compromised much. If we split up I'd  give upa lot. I love our life together . We have been together for so long that he is my life. Last time I was single I was in my early 20's and I certainly don't miss that. At the moment we aren't talking. My heart just feels heavy.  I wanted to marry him for ages but he was still married to his ex wife. He got a divorce and asked me to marry him. We have been so happy past few months. i don't know what's changed past week apart from me wanting to feel the spark again. He does seem to be irritating me more. ..and me him..Im scared what this means