The Ex Mentioned

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2010
The Ex Mentioned
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Sat, 07-26-2014 - 3:23pm

When my ex and I were going out I introduced him to some of my friends and he his friends. After our breakup my best friend remained friends with my ex and both of them cut me out of their lives. And they kept chatting on and off now 3 years later they still chat.

Anyway earlier tonight I had texted that best friend because her and I became friends again a few years ago. And as soon as she replied back she had the nerve to tell me "Hey your ex is a daddy!"

I felt like crap reading that text and told her to stop telling me about my ex she said sorry but then stopped talking to me. I was forgetting about my ex even though its been 3 years but with this ex it's taken me a while to forget about him.

I ended up checking his and his girlfriends Facebook pages and my friend was right the girlfriend did have the baby so he is a daddy.

So now after this I think it may take a little longer to do. What would you do in this situation?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 07-26-2014 - 3:38pm

What actually is there to do?  I would not be mad at your friend for mentioning this.  Really it's been 3 years.  I doubt she would think that you are still pining for him.  I think if you want to keep her as a friend you should apologize and say that you were sorry to be upset with her but for some reason it's still hurtful to think of him with someone else and you would just prefer not to hear about it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2010
Sat, 07-26-2014 - 4:01pm

I did tell her to stop telling me about him and she said sorry to me. Yeah I know its been 3 years but he was one of those ex's I cared and loved a lot so it was and has been hard to forget about him.

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Registered: 08-25-2006
Mon, 07-28-2014 - 7:04pm

I don't think your GF did anything wrong, but if it bothers you then better to ask her now rather than later to please not talk about him.  

If she has stopped calling you because of this, then you might want to reach out to her and work through it.  

The only reason I can see this bothering you after 3 years if maybe you always wanted a child with him, he said he never wanted kids, and now has one.  But other than that, you might have to buck up on this one if you still have common friends.

Hope that makes sense.  :)  Good luck!

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