overseas job offer - freaking out
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|Mon, 03-10-2014 - 3:55am|
My bf and I are in our early early 30s and we have been dating for 3.5 years. we are in a pretty good place, and are working together towards being with each other for the long haul.
Today I just got an amazing job offer overseas (Asia). I interview for this position just to try my luck. I wanted it, but I didn't really think I'd get it. And now I'm freaking out because I'm pretty sure I will take the offer. My life is going to change completely. I will have to leave my bf, friends, the life I've built for myself in a city I've only moved to around 5 years ago. I'm freaking out. Mostly because I've had a taste of long distance in the past, and it was HARD. I was in my mid 20s, I knew I wasn't gonna end up with the guy, but still, I was in love. We did it for a little over a year (making our entire relationship a little over 2 years). I can still remember the pain I felt in my heart missing him, how much I cried at night. This time it would be much, much worse. I'm so scared. I'm afraid that I'll regret it if I take it, and that I'll regret it if I don't take it. Either way, I risk losing something that's very important to me. I'm afraid to find out that I'm not as strong as I believed myself to be.
When I told my bf about this, I cried. He said he's never met someone who's sad before they got a great job offer. He's supportive and said we'll figure something out. I'll have to give my answer in a couple of days. I hope that whatever decision I make, is the right one.