Where is the best place to find and date successful men?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-13-2014
Where is the best place to find and date successful men?
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Thu, 03-13-2014 - 3:23am

Some women want rich men for the money but not me. I have a real fetish for uppity, high class, rich men. They completely turn me on to the extreme. When I was a teenage girl, I used to read vogue magazine and the pictures I liked the most contained the men wearing pearls, furs, good leather and diamonds. My friend ever recomended me a dating rich men site wealthyfish.net as they met their husband. But it is not working for me. I would like to know where do you meet these type of men and how do you get them to take a interest in me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-06-2010
Although it's been a very long time since I've been in the market for a man, I think you need to be out there and available. Think about the things that interest you and then participate. Then you will find someone who shares the same interests. Stop and think....what do these high class men do? Join a country club and find out what social activities they have. Maybe it's art they are interested in. Read up on these activities before you actually try to join in. Men like women who are informed and interested in them and their lives. Can you afford to buy or lease an expensive car? That would give a wealthy man the impression that you are in the same league. For the most part, wealthy, classy men are going to be interested in wealthy, classy women. Happy Hunting!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008

"That would give a wealthy man the impression that you are in the same league. For the most part, wealthy, classy men are going to be interested in wealthy, classy women. Happy Hunting"!

Agree with the PP to a certain degree, but once they get to know you, just the "impression" will not be enough.  You also need to live up to the part.  Can you keep up in their games and savvy enough to understand the finer things in life?  I.e, golf, skiing, riding/polo, sailing, hunting, wine collection, theatre/opera, etc.  I am not saying that Cinderalla stories don't happen, but they are the exception rather than the norm and if you are counting on that, you better be drop dead gorgeous and/or super smart.

Also, you cannot simply "join" a prestigious country club.  You need sponsors and often there is a rather long waiting period.  For the most part, the rich DO want to keep the 99% out.  If your friends are already married to rich husbands, why don't you see if they could include you in some of their social activities so that you have a chance to meet their husbands' equally rich men friends?  Makes more sense than joining a dating site.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-24-2003

'..and if you are counting on that, you better be drop dead gorgeous and/or super smart.'  - PLUS about 18 years old. ha..

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-24-2003

'I have a real fetish for uppity, high class, rich men.'

IMHO, that's not a fetish. That's just wanting a very rich partner/husband. I hope you find him!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-1999

Learn how to use the King's English correctly, in word and in print.  Learn how NOT to sound like an addlepate.  Get an education.  Learn how to support, and comport yourself.  Get a CAREER, not just a job, and become a successful person, surrounded by other successful people.  And perhaps by then you will have grown up enough to realize that the men in those magazines are MODELS, mostly gay, and are dressed that way (by OTHER people)  to sell whatever it was that was draped around them. 

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2012

Seriously? Rich, handsome, successful men aren't going to advertise themselves on websites for anyone who will take them so stop wasting your time and resources on bogus websites advertising rich husband material. Most likely a rich, successful man set up the website and laughs at all the idiots who sign up every time he gets a bank statement.

Successful men want successful women. Go to college, start a career, learn to walk, talk and dress like a successful woman-in other words-become a successful woman and you might find a successful man.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I have to add to what Owaitress said.  There are some very wealthy men who want women who are their equal, like Bill Gates, whose wife worked for him and is a very well educated woman.  then there are the guys who want trophy wives, so if you are extremely beautiful and don't mind dating a man who is 20+ years older than yourself, that might work too.  By the way, in real life, the only wealthy men who dress like that (furs, diamonds) are sports figures or guys in the entertainment industry.  Rich business men dress much more conservatively.  But considering these guys could probably get whoever they want--what do you have to offer them?  I mean Tom Brady married a supermodel who makes about $60 million a year--can you compete with that?

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Registered: 04-16-2008

"Seriously? Rich, handsome, successful men aren't going to advertise themselves on websites for anyone who will take them so stop wasting your time and resources on bogus websites advertising rich husband material. Most likely a rich, successful man set up the website and laughs at all the idiots who sign up every time he gets a bank statement".

Rich men also do not waste resources and their precious time.  More likely they do it to troll for mistresses rather than just getting a good laugh.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-05-2010

There's Patti Stanger's Millionaires Club, with its website. I believe women can  join for free, but you need professional photos of yourself (like an actress uses for auditions). You also don't want to be too obvious or blatant as a "gold digger". Men are put off by that.

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Registered: 01-25-2010

  Ok you want to hunt the big game.

1. look the part!   What is your background?  Education.adapatibility.  It means changing you.  look the part act the part.  Buy Town and Country mag read what the wealthy upper class do and act.  Where you live makes a big difference East coast wealthy are different from west coast and International differnent again.  What are your talents?  Art,dining,spedboats formula and Sports car racing (not Nascar It's plebian)  Read Ocean drive then Google the names same for any upper brow  publication research your targets.. It works in hunting game, fighter pilots,getting the professional job.  Research, research research,  watch Pretty woman for the clues to how she learned to transform herself.  John Molloy had book out on dressing for success (dated but it will give you ideas.)  American women have difficulty adapting to upper class thought and mannerisms.  You are going to have to absorb and adapt speech,dress, movements(yes you walk is  a give away) Upper class walk like on rails.  No duck walk here.   cast off any thing and habit that does not fit. 

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