can't get over him . . .
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|Tue, 05-01-2012 - 8:49pm|
Okay. Please be nice, because I am already suffering from a bad decision. I need advice. I was in a very bad relationship with my husband who constantly told me to leave and move out. I love him like crazy! I was under a lot of stress in grad school, and I became hard to live with I admit. But when my marriage turned bad and we fought constantly, hurtful, hateful fights, I got lost and depressed and very sad and confused. His best friend started to chat with me on a social network, and I had been fighting an attraction to him for years. I had avoided him, because I found him very attractive. When he started to talk to me, it was friendly at first, but I when I started to talk back, we started to flirt and participate in sex texts.
Next thing I know, for 4 months, we texted every day. We are both married. I knew I shouldn't, and so did he. We weren't looking for an affair. We weren't looking for anything permanent, just a distraction. So his wife found out, before we broke off our relationship. He was instantly gone. We stopped texting immediately, which was the right thing to do. Our spouses are hanging in there, and that is a good thing. The problem is, it's been 2 months since I've talked to him, and I am still hurting. I can't talk to anyone about it, can't cry about it, because I don't want anyone to know. It hurts. He lives a mile from me. I miss him terribly, but I know it's for the best that we stopped, and that we both get back to making our own marriages stronger. It doesn't help the hurt.
I feel like a normal person does in a normal breakup, but my situation is not a good one, because we are married, and we shouldn't have gotten involved. What do I do? How do I grieve a relationship that shouldn't have been, when I have to deal with it all by myself and not let my feelings show? My husband is hurt enough, and he's trying to be good about it, even to the point where we are getting along better than we ever have. I want to stop crying over this guy! This relationship should have never happened! I want to get over it! Help!!