Favorite, best

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Registered: 05-23-2003
Favorite, best
Mon, 01-28-2013 - 6:32pm

Too quiet, I know I've had some login issues (I swear I logged in - but no, it did not take it seems), people are busy, the site is slow, everyone has too much stuff going on IRL, blah blah BLAH.  I get it - I do.  But "understanding" does not equal "happiness" in this instance.

<shakes fist>

So hey!  Let's talk!  You can tell me I don't know, whatever you would like to.  How you are, where you are, what's going on, etc.  Or you can take the easy route and just play along with the title of the post instead.  Or you could do both!  It's totally your choice!  And I may even be able to resist making the buzzer noise if you choose wrong!  (KIDDING!)

What is your favorite or best whatever?  Movie, song, book, quote, inspirational saying, item of clothing, facet of your personality, animal, word, food - whatever!  GO CRAZY!  BE DARING!  THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX!

Um...so I live in New England, you guys know that, right?  And while our winter hasn't been too awful, it's still WINTER, and the last week or so has been insanely cold, and I've spent possibly a little too much time holed up inside and not going outside unless absolutely necessary - and maybe, possibly, I am beginning to feel a tiny little bit of cabin fever, and am close to SNAPPING.

This is not a good time to be all silent, I'm just saying.

Come out, come out, wherever you are...


(I feel guilty for threatening you up above there, so I feel like I should point out that me snapping in this situation really only amounts to me being far more chatty than usual.  Um, so not really a super threat or anything.  Except maybe for those who do post in because possibly I might end up like, POUNCING on them or something.  Oh hey - that's the way to spark some conversation, right?  WHO WANTS TO GO FIRST?)




Community Leader
Registered: 05-23-2003
Wed, 01-30-2013 - 3:44pm

Hi Tam!

So you have kids in college/hs and one in kindergarten?  I have two kids, and there is a 16 1/2 year age difference, is why I ask.  :)

19 days is really great progress, so I hope that you are taking a moment each day to give yourself some credit for that.  I know it isn't easy right now - but I promise you that it does get easier, in time.  And the longer out you are from all of this, the less it will all hurt, I swear.




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Registered: 01-11-2013
Wed, 01-30-2013 - 3:13pm
Enjoy your day! I hope you gets lots done. My husband does A LOT of work at night because at his company the culture is to attend meetings all day. That leaves no time to get anything else done during working hours. I'm looking forward to a laid back evening. My husband is out of town tonight, so something lazy for dinner and I'm going to lie in bed and watch American Idol.
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Registered: 02-03-2012
Wed, 01-30-2013 - 1:29pm

 I know...posting twice..and this time On purpose!

  I liked that poem (quote) didn't want to screw it up with my babbleCool.  Okay...live in the Tx. Hill Country and work in a city that is about a 1 hour commute. I treasure the drive (most of the time). But today, I didn't want to leave the house. I had a pile of tracking folders (kids we mentor and track), monthly reports, etc. staring at me. The wind was/is howling outside. We have a new puppy that was curled up next to me, I had a pile of laundry calling my name, and a tea-pot teasing me.

 My solution? Playing hookie. (Yes..I seem to post here on the days I do that) I do this about once a month to ..catch up on paperwork for work! So..my co-workers know I am staying home to work. Our 2 year old nephew (whom we are raising)is visiting his mom today...so this means..I can work in the comfort of my den, hot tea in my hand as I listen to the coffee house station and rotate laundry. Total bliss..just what this soul is needing today.

Work is keeping me engaged. I still love volunteering at one of the local prisons. There is a short promotional video being filmed at the prison starting today..and running through Sunday. This has caused lots of excitement inside the walls. 

I continue journaling daily. Had a much greater emotional setback then expected when I received a drunk text from xAP a few weeks ago...but now realize that I won't reengage. It's not that I can't..it's that I won't. And somehow..understanding in my mind that I won't (as opposed to can or can't..and I mean can or can't emotionally...not logistically) but that I won't has been pivotal for me. Not sure how to explain it, really. I guess..with can or can't..I am still powerless to an addiction. With "won't" I acknowledge addiction..embrace it even..saying..okay..this is who you are..so just don't..and trust yourself that you won't go there again. And you know what? I think I do trust myself. and for me? That is a huge step in this healing process.

  The difference between who you are and who you imagine yourself to be, is what you do.

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Registered: 02-03-2012
Wed, 01-30-2013 - 1:10pm

 Favorite quote:

                              The most beautiful people we have known
                  are those who have known defeat,
                               known suffering,
                               known struggle,
                               known loss,
                               and have found their way
                                out of the depths.
                                These people have an appreciation
                                 a sensitivity
                                 and an understanding of life
                                  that fills them with
                                 and deep loving concern. 

                                  Beautiful people do not just happen.

                                                                      -Elizabeth Kuber-Ross

I am becoming truly grateful for all the beautiful men and women in my life (ahem...AYA and EASers..that includes you!) 


  The difference between who you are and who you imagine yourself to be, is what you do.

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Registered: 06-24-2011
Tue, 01-29-2013 - 4:36pm
Hi Kimmie, It is most godawful quiet indeed. I have been crazy busy with my "project", which you know about. The great part about that is it is giving me an oppurtunity to see how competant and effective I can actually be, outside of my professional life. It's been very empowering in some ways because people have been saying that the right person 'got the job' (unpaid) and I actually believe them! How about that? I am admitting that I am the right person for this particular project and because of me it may actually turn out way better for people than had I not been involved. The other awesome part of it is that I have pretty much NO time to think about xAP. I go hours and hours now without thinking of him. Seriously! It is wonderful and liberating. And, um, yeah, you wanted some favourites/bests.... Favourite take out food: Indian Favourite ice cream: Vanilla Best way to spend a Sunday: sleeping in, cuddled up with my toddler, with the bigger kids bringing me cups of tea (hey, I can dream!), then sitting by the fire knitting while my husband and children play nicely nearby and no one fights. And all the ingredients are in the house for me to make a yummy dinner later that everyone likes and no one complains about. Nice hot bath, early to bed to watch HBO. Yeah, that is what needs to happen!
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Registered: 10-22-2012
Tue, 01-29-2013 - 6:14am

Hi Kim! I’m here, and I’m doing fine, I don’t have any worries or struggles, I’m just doing my thing, focusing on the good, working on being better, trying not to be grumpy. Like someone mentioned on another thread, I feel the imminence of menopause which is messing with my body and mind, very frustrating.


It is so sad the way that the boards have gone so quiet, they are not what they used to be that’s for sure, and I don’t know whether they will ever go back to the way they were. There isn’t enough traffic … not enough input, not enough feedback and consequently less of a reason to come here to read and post.


So, my favourite things, I have so many and it’s so hard to choose. I love movies, and my favourites are gosh, loads and loads. I love the Lord of the Rings trilogy, because I’m a bit of a geek, I love Bridget Jones Diary, Pulp Fiction, The English Patient, to name but a few. After I read Star of the Sea by Joseph O’Connor I said that was the best book I had ever read, but I’ve loved so many books from Maeve Binchy to Stephen Leather. Food, well I’m a spicy girl with a real sweet tooth, I love curries of any kind and pretty much any kind of desert, especially of the chocolate variety. My favourite word is “cuddle” and I add the word “chop” to the end of my loved ones’ names, I always have done. I think it’s because I used to watch a programme when I was very small with a puppet in it called “lambchop”, so Kim would be Kimmychop, and so on and so forth … quite clearly I am a very weird personEmbarassed

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Registered: 01-11-2013
Mon, 01-28-2013 - 9:15pm

Well, I guess I'll be the first.  My favorite musical is Les Miserable. I LOVE the music. I have been afraid to see the movie, but heard it is very good. My favorite vacation destination is Paris, so far, although I like to go anywhere new. One of my favorite things to do is go for a walk in the woods with my little guy. The best thing in the world to me is to have all of my kids(2 in college, 1 in high school and 1 kindergartener) together and getting along! It doesn't happen often.  1) because 2 are away at school and 2) because the oldest 3 don't get along very well,especially kids 2 and 3.

I am doing OK. Most days are good. I have been 19 days with NC and hope to keep going. I still wish I could forget about him and not ever think about him, but I suppose that will come in time.