Is he going too far?

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Registered: 05-31-2013
Is he going too far?
Fri, 05-31-2013 - 3:05pm

I had a 4 month affair. It has been over for 3 weeks. My husband is devastated. I feel horrible I have hurt him so badly. We just started counseling. I know that of course he feels like he can't trust me, but please tell me if this is normal and ok: he has my email linked to his phone, has my Facebook linked to his phone, is constantly checking my phone for texts and calls, he had something put on my car so he can track of where I am. He has taken my phone to work with him and texted the Other Man pretending to be me so he could see if we had really stopped seeing each other. Then he texted my friends pretending to be me to see if I had other affairs. He has come up to the school where I work, come into my classroom and grabbed my phone in front of my students so he could look at my texts. One male teacher where I work 'freinded' me on Facebook, my husband then 'friended' him and sent him a pm asking, "are you my wife's new stalker?"  I know he is hurting and that it is my fault. I just feel like this is extreme. Or am I being insensitive?