H's depressed mood is NOT mine...learning to distance and have my own mood.

Community Leader
Registered: 06-08-2010
H's depressed mood is NOT mine...learning to distance and have my own mood.
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 10:47pm

Hello all,

I just thought I would post here tonight and the subject is mood...I have found, that in discovering myself over the past year of healing, that I am not attaching myself to another's mood or allowing it to pull me down as much as I used to.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-22-2011
That's great Hearts. I'm glad you were able to separate yourself from this and not feel responsibility to fix it.

Have a great day.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2010

This may very well fall into the fake it till you make it category.

We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2004

RBM that was an excellent post. I completely agree.

Community Leader
Registered: 05-23-2003
Hi Hearts,

Those are all really good things. :)

I hope you have a great overnight with your husband.




Community Leader
Registered: 06-08-2010

RBM, thank you for such an insightful post...you are right.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2008

Hi Heart,

I agree that while you can be compassionate, patient and understanding it would do no good for your H or you if you let it get you down and depressed too.

Also, I have found when H and I have discussed his triggers often times what he thinks was a trigger and what actually turned out to be a trigger

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.