I want out...

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-31-2011
I want out...
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 8:03pm
...I just can't do it. He has taken every little bit of confidence I ever had away from me. Why can't I turn around and say enough, I can't take it anymore?!
We've been speaking....I wear a new lipstick..he notices (i think that's kinda cute) he backs it up with "do you know what, you look like a whore!"
I want to walk away, I really do, but I can't and I don't know why. I'd never stand this from anyone else. I feel like I'm losing my mind!!


iVillage Member
Registered: 09-12-2005
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 8:38pm

What a complete jerk Titchy ! How about getting angry at him ? That would be the first step.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2004
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 8:44pm
Oh Titchy, he should be frozen out of your life. That is absolutely horrible what he said. You would feel so much better to leave him behind. No one should speak or be spoken to in that way:(
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2010
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 9:01pm
If you want out Titchy..then get out. You have the power and self worth. No man who loves a woman would speak to her like that. You know it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2011
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 10:33pm
Titchy. You CAN do it. Set a plan, a goal, write it down. Make it until noon without contact. Then extend it. You want to do it. You CAN do it. Do you see a T? Time to, I feel. You need support to get to where you want to be.

It's not about him, it's about YOU.

Best wishes.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-29-2011
Fri, 04-20-2012 - 7:40am
T, you can SO do this! This relationship is NOT healthy, and you KNOW its not right. Please think of yourself right now, block all ties to him and walk away. Take care of YOU, and hang here, post, read, and reach out whenever you need someone to talk this stuff out with! Pulling for you!

Sometimes love just isn't enough.... NC since 7-30-14

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-26-2010
Fri, 04-20-2012 - 8:07am
Titchy ((((hugs)))) come here and hold our hands, we will help you through this. There is no right or wrong to ending, but there is so much wrong in how he is treating you. Take it hour by blue, then day by day. Come here post and vent about anything and everything! You can do this!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-03-2012
Fri, 04-20-2012 - 10:15am

Titchy! I've missed your face! Wondered how you were doing.

Sunny is right. No right way to do this..but he is spiralling..don't let him bring you with him.

(yeah..I know..I should talk!) p.m. me if ya want. I'm just hangin with kids today, so I'll be around.

  The difference between who you are and who you imagine yourself to be, is what you do.

Community Leader
Registered: 05-23-2003
Fri, 04-20-2012 - 10:48pm
Titchy sweetness -

You can do anything you set your mind to.

You're far stronger than you think you are.

Believe in yourself, sweetie. We do.




iVillage Member
Registered: 07-31-2011
Sat, 04-21-2012 - 8:51am

Well i wanted out...so here i am! I can do this, i have 4 days to get through (today being day 1) then i go on holiday for a week with my family, out of the country, no contact possible.

I am feeling stronger than i have before...i have had one last punch/bruise on the arm...and i have had one last put down.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-26-2010
Sun, 04-22-2012 - 12:37am
An affair allows us to take it to the extreme, we get sucked in, we need, we desire and crave our fix. We make excuses, we lie to ourselves just so we can get that feel good fix or even the painful feelings, because at least we are feeling something, besides the numbness many of us felt before the affair. The affairs drives things out of our control, until that day the we have had enough. That is when we move on, we want to run, but it doesn't work that way, instead we have to process. Your getting there Titchy, we up ahead in the path, keep reaching out, you are catching up with us. You can do this!! Hugs!!
Ps. Your X-AP is being extremely nasty to you! I think he is trying to manipulate the situation, make you feel bad, make you question everything and then top it off by feeding you guilt trips. He knows you enough to know your weak points and he is using that to manipulate you.