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|Wed, 11-14-2012 - 8:54am|
Well, as I mentioned last night, I have reached a plateau in my healing process, I am not moving any further forward, I am still thinking too much about xAP and I am not getting over my A the way I feel I should have by now. And as I have mentioned previously, and I'm sorry for being so repetitive, I have realised that the reason why I am at this plateau is that I am allowing myself to stagnate here, I am wallowing, I am punishing myself because I feel guilty about my A. And I already know what I need to do, I need to choose to let go, I am in control of this situation, I have to stop allowing thoughts of xAP to take up so much space in my mind, I need to put more energy into moving forward with my life. I will never forget my A, nor should I, but I have to stop obsessing about it so much.
So, does anyone have any advice on letting go? Is it a conscious decision? Is it something that just happens after a certain amount of time? I read somewhere that it takes 2 years to get over an A, I am 7 months out, is it the case that after enough time has passed and distance created between myself and my A that I will just let go? Is it the case that you never actually get over an A, you just learn to live with it?
Any thoughts ... anyone?