Community Leader
Registered: 05-23-2003
Sat, 04-28-2012 - 12:48pm

So I thought that in addition to the roll call thread, I'd start a limbo thread - in case there are those out there who don't feel as though they should post into the roll call given their situation.

And I know this is the "After" board - but I also know that given the view counts we get around here, there are likely some who fall into this limbo land category, and I hate to think that you're out there hurting - without any kind of support.

Also, personally, I'd love the chance to be able to shove off the fence help anyone who might be lingering in limbo-land to talk things through a little bit.


iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2010
In reply to: justkim2007
Sat, 04-28-2012 - 11:51pm
First..I'd like to say that are a very supportive and loving person. I stay here, on this board because of the most amazing and sweet people who always offer support.
Yes, I am in limbo but the good thing is that I am not in limbo in terms of my life. Which took me a long time. But I am in limbo with the man I had an A with.
I consider being in limbo as not being able to make up your mind. Your at a crossroads and don't know which is the best way. If you choose route A..there are regrets. If you choose route B..there are other regrets. So you're not sure of which path is good because neother path is good. Does that make sense? How does it feel? It sucks. Its painful and its filled with self doubt. A constant battle between the heart and mind and the inability to decide is what kills.
Its Hamlet. In its purest form.
For me the happy sad balance is this: I am happy that I am moving in a direction where its ok to be alone but sad because I wanted AP for so long to tell me what he is telling me now but I can't get past his actions. I get he was conbfused, made mistakes but those actions changed me and the way I feel.
His wife is pregnant...and I can't get over that one fact