Reply to Csmithrn

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Registered: 06-24-2011
Reply to Csmithrn
Thu, 12-27-2012 - 3:59pm

Sorry.  It is not letting me reply.  i thought it was jsut my phone but I am posting from my desktop today.  Huge sigh.

Anyway, here is what I had tyoed in reply to your breaking NC after 4 months thread.....


Hi sweetheart.  My xAP broke NC after 4 months last fall.  It led to 3 months of "trying to be friends" again and was unbelievably painful.

Get back up on the NC horse.  It's terribly, terribly hard I know, but what is the alternative?  You already know the A does not work for you.

I used to remind myself of this all the time.  It did not work for me.  I can't go back there.

And now I am very nearly a year NC (Dec 30!) and, while it still hurts, it is *so much better* than it was.

Don't hurt yourself anymore.  Commit to the NC again, don't drag yourself through heart break again for 3 months like I did.

Much strength and love to you

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Registered: 08-07-2012
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 11:36am

Thank you...its so hard. I get so far and then all of a sudden I get this urge and then I hit reply and its done. I don't want the affair cause no it doesn't work for me. I want what he promised me....a life together. :(  Which I'm never going to get. So don't know why I do these things to myself! Just torturing myself, but Im still hurting so!!