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|Thu, 12-20-2012 - 7:12pm|
So something that RB said got me thinking. And since things have been quiet around here, I figure that it's a perfect time for some discussion. :)
She was talking about justifying a stumble. So, that's our topic. Stumbles. And justifications.
So we all know that stumbles happen, generally speaking. We know from our time here and elsewhere that more often than not, endings are rarely perfect or clean, and that lots of people end up tripping up somewhere and having to pick themself back up again.
Why do they happen? And what can we do to prevent them?
I want you to think about when you've tripped, or come close to tripping. What were you thinking? What was your frame of mind? Were you tired? Sick? Hurting? Were you angry? What was driving you in that moment? What tipped you over the edge?
I want you to think about this, for the next time, if there is a next time. When there is something that we want to do - most of us become experts at talking ourselves into it. Even if it is something that is bad for us - we can still almost always manage to justify it to ourselves, and to give ourselves permission to do it anyway. Sometimes the justifications necessary are just little ones. Sometimes we have to stretch a little and they turn into bigger ones. But where there is a will...there is always a way, and in the ending and after process, when our brains are kind of scrambled and not really working so great - well, that's a bad combination.
Instead of talking yourself INTO something - why don't you talk yourself OUT of it instead. I know it's hard, when you're in that moment, hanging on the edge, waiting to see which way you fall. Logic probably won't work all that well - chances are good that you are being driven by your emotional side, and logic doesn't really stand a chance in that moment. But, try it - and anything and everything else you can think of. If emotions are driving the bus - then hit back with an emotional response -- but a healthy one, that will make you feel better at the end of the day, not worse.
Let's brainstorm - and see if we can come up with some ways to fight back, and stay steady. Tell me where your cliff is - and how close to that edge you've stepped, and let's talk it through, and see if we can find some better response than just flinging yourself off of it.
I know, heavy stuff and with the holiday coming, you just want to put all of this aside and be happy. And that's great - we can be happy! But you know, there is a new year coming too - and the opportunity to maybe start fresh, and make some changes.
I don't want anyone to be unhappy. And I really don't want anyone to hurt themselves any more than they already have.