There are days.....

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Registered: 10-07-2008
There are days.....
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Fri, 02-03-2012 - 9:05pm

I have come to the hard core realization that as long as I am at my job, my feelings and emotions won't change about my affair.

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Registered: 10-26-2010
Sat, 02-04-2012 - 7:58am
No one walks away from an affair unscathed. We may think others have it all put away, tucked to bed neatly, but it is there affecting their life.
Perhaps we are best to remember and look upon it as a chapter, a season of learning. Reminders are hard and I believe will always be. But I think they will come few and farther in-between.
Work is where I struggle the most too, as that is where most of the communication took place and this allows my mind to wander. X-AP was a part of your life, just like an old classmate. Just remind yourself he doesn't deserve a front row seat anymore.
I can't answer why we hold on? I wish I knew.
~Sunny~
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Registered: 05-23-2003
Sat, 02-04-2012 - 1:17pm
Aww, Beach.

I know that there are still hard days - but I am so happy to see that there are good days, too.

It's just a process, you know? Look at the progress you've already made. I mean, your realization about your job - would you have made that a month ago, two months ago? Maybe, but maybe not.

And recognizing that you're not over all of it - and that you could be preventing yourself from being over it, hanging on to that last little bit of hope - that's progress, too. Even though it's uncomfortable to realize - it is a step in the right direction.

So, now that you are thinking the way you are about your job - what else are you thinking in that department? Are you considering making a change there?

Hugs,

Kim

    

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Registered: 10-07-2008
Sun, 02-05-2012 - 12:03pm

Kim,

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Registered: 12-13-2010
Mon, 02-06-2012 - 11:09am

Beachsunfun,

Right on.

Community Leader
Registered: 05-23-2003
Mon, 02-06-2012 - 6:14pm
Oh absolutely. I am a huge believer in reframing our thoughts, whenever possible. So any way that you can do that is only going to be a positive thing, and bring positive results.

:)

Kim

    

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Registered: 10-07-2008
Tue, 02-07-2012 - 5:40am
sunrise, you asked how many days we have been at NC. I quit counting days a long time ago. We had NC sessions alot started by me and my guilt. He would always cave first and call. I think it has been maybe since before Thanksgiving that I last heard from him, and I was on a mission to end this thing. I talked of nothing but husband and how good life is for us... I never ever dreamed I would have got mixed up in something like this and never ever dreamed it would be this hard to get out of.
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Registered: 06-22-2011
Tue, 02-07-2012 - 11:56am

"I never ever dreamed I would have got mixed up in something like this and never ever dreamed it would be this hard to get out of."

Amen sister.