What have your Ts said?
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|Fri, 01-13-2012 - 12:39pm|
For those who have been in counseling, what have your therapists had to say about 'why' you did what you did or how you've been able (or not) to get over it? The last two counselors I've been with have tried to reach inside me, find past experience, family issues growing up, marriage issues now, all sorts of things that would contribute to 1) me having an affair and 2) being so stuck on it and not able to get over him, pretty much not having anything to do with the guy.
I argue that it is the man himself, that I fell in love with someone at the wrong place and time, no underlying psychological issues or unresolved past experiences. That for me it is about wanting to be with someone I can never be with and it torments me.
Curious to hear what counselors have suggested in general, of course recognizing that every situation and person is different.