What's up?

Community Leader
Registered: 05-23-2003
What's up?
Mon, 01-21-2013 - 5:15pm

Hey babies,

What's up?  What's happening?  What's going on?


In case anyone missed it, Jessica posted the latest update with the boards here - http://www.ivillage.com/forums/ivillage-women/around-ivillage/ivillage-help/ivillage-help/latest-update-1-17-13

Go check it out so you can stay up to date with what's going on with the board changes. 

And then, come back and tell me whassup with you.

Because I miss you, and I worry, and well, it's far too quiet here, and you KNOW how I feel about that.  Don't make me resort to talking to myself.  No one wants that.

Hugs and kisses,



iVillage Member
Registered: 07-14-2011
Mon, 01-21-2013 - 8:32pm

Oh geez, don't resort to talking to yourself.  I'm here!!

What's up is that I can't seem to add a picture to my profile.  Keeps showing up as the ivillage red thingy.  What else is up is that my D is almost final and tomorrow is going to be a nasty custody conference where I am fighting for supervised visits only for my STBXH due to him driving repeatedly with alcohol in the car with our kids.  (Among other things).  As far as the A, I am three and half years out, still have yet to run into xAP since pre-D-Day.  I can handle it if it happens but still hoping it doesn't.

Why is it so quiet?? 

Formerly heartacheafter7years
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2011
Tue, 01-22-2013 - 11:43am
Hi Kim and all!! Omigosh things are TERRIBLE at home with H. Just terrible!! I am online trying to find a new counselor right now. I don't know which practice to call first, or when I can even find time to get somewhere. Schedule is ridiculous these days. But we are in dire need of help. I nearly left this weekend, was going to just take the kids and disappear for at least a night - that is how bad it was Thursday evening... I was prepared to GO on Friday. But I stayed. We made a few attempts to talk over the weekend and at times it was ok and at other times created more fighting. There is zero intimacy, no connection - mostly me withdrawing - but I blame it on years of lack of emotional support building up and creating a feeling of physical distance for me. If my mind is not into it neither will my body. I am kind of where I was when I first joined the site except I am not in an A. But I am at a breaking point at home. Maybe I should create a new post for this and see what all these wise lovelies have to say. I feel bad that I haven't had much time to come on the boards, read what everyone else has been posting, respond to people - but thinking of you all and hoping everyone is hanging in there and doing okay..
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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-22-2012
Wed, 01-23-2013 - 8:50am

Hi Kim!

There's nothing wrong with talking to yourself ... I talk to myself all day long, I find myself quite good company, which is just as well because nobody else doesLaughing

I can't be bothered trying to find that link Kim, does it say anything interesting?

I am doing fine, like others I feel sad about the deterioration in the boards. My issue with my life is dealing with the boredom of my job, well, I can't really deal with it, I just have to accept that it is very tedious and for the time being I have to stick with it because I can't get another job that suits, though I do try. Apart from that all is well, I'm looking forward to the weekend, in fact I'm living for it.

Much love to you all and thank you Kim for being here x o x

Community Leader
Registered: 05-23-2003
Thu, 01-24-2013 - 12:42pm

Hi Angie - how did things go for you with your conference?  I hope things went as well as they could for you.  And kudos to you - for standing up for what is right.

I don't know why things are soooo quiet.  I mean, I know that the boards still being wonky has something to do with it, of course.  I know how frustrating some of the issues have been, the sign-in issues, posting issues, etc.  And I think it isn't just us, I have noticed that a lot (most?) of the boards are very, very quiet these days.  :(

I just hope people keep trying and don't give up on the boards.




Community Leader
Registered: 05-23-2003
Thu, 01-24-2013 - 12:58pm

Hello soglad my love -

I'm copying the body of the update post here, so you don't need to click the link.  :)  Basically what will happen is that any threads before 2011 will be gone from the boards - for now - unless there is activity in them.  HOPEFULLY they will return in some form or another at some point, fingers crossed.

I feel like we'll lost a lot of valuable posts and insights and all of that good stuff - but then again, I know that a lot of text is missing in a lot of the older threads anyway, so maybe we won't really be missing out on that much.  And if it makes things faster/better, then maybe it's a good trade off.

(Trying to put a positive spin on things, as always.  LOL)


Latest Update - 1-17-13
Thu, 01-17-2013 - 10:52am

>>Hi, everyone!

December was an interesting month around iVillage -- change of leadership, re-focusing of goals, re-prioritizing projects. The most important thing we have to do with message boards right now is improve their performance (and by that, I'm talking about the slow page load times, and the way we're found in Google) relative to all of ivillage.com.

As you know, the amount of data we imported from Lithium was staggering. This huge database is slowing everything down -- not just the boards, but the whole site, at times. So the call has been made to lighten the load. We'll be removing older and inactive THREADS from the boards, starting (probably) next week. 

Here's the list of what we're KEEPING:
·         All threads created since the move to Drupal last October
·         All of the Food channel (we already did a big purge there last year)
·         Any thread with a reply on or after 1-1-2011 (So if a thread was created in 2003, if it had a reply in 2011, it stays.)
·         About 1000 other threads that don't fall into any of the above 3 categories, but we've identified them as having value in Google (most are in Love and Sex)

Again, this only impacts threads.

Right now, the team is doing a test run on the data in QA. If that goes smoothly, we'll get to work on the live site. I'll post an update here when that starts. It will take about 2-3 weeks, moving threads in batches, to get through them all. Our long-term plan is to have old threads available in a read-only archive, but that's a huge project in and of itself, and unfortunately I don't even have a time estimate for that.

After this database project is finished, I can get back to requesting fixes to the features of the boards. ;)<<