Why can't I delete his number?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-10-2011
Why can't I delete his number?
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Fri, 03-16-2012 - 5:38pm

So yes, I have not deleted his cell number, email address and

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Registered: 05-06-2009
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 6:56pm
Anna, I think everything you said is perfectly rational and logical and fair.
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Registered: 09-21-2010
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 8:00pm
I believe you haven't blocked him because it is your last string of hope. You hold on to it and by doing so you continue to have him in your heart and mind. The "maybe" is in a sense a way of holding on to him.
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Registered: 01-10-2011
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 8:13pm

Hi Mia,

I honestly don't know how to find my old posts, so let me give you a brief recap of my story.

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Registered: 04-23-2010
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 8:15pm

Anna,

I am sorry I have to be the first to disagree with you.

I think you are hanging on.

We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.

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Registered: 02-21-2007
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 12:00am

Wow RBM, I seem to be agreeing with you more and more.

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Registered: 12-19-2011
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 12:32am

I have not been willing to block either. Very able to, yes, as you are. But not willing. You certainly can delete his number and block him. But why aren't you willing? Because you don't want to be mean or because you don't want to rule him out completely? It is hard to know. For me it is some of both. I deleted the cell # before I memorized it but I haven't blocked his incoming email. And you know what? I am pretty sure I never will.

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Registered: 05-06-2009
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 8:33am
Oh my gosh Anna, you have been through a lot.
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Registered: 01-24-2011
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 5:59pm
Anna, it took me a long time to delete the last contact details and finalise my blocks too. I felt a lot of guilt over ending a long A with someone who claimed to be willing to give up everything for me and it provided some comfort to know he could still reach me if he really wanted to.

In the end I found that it was easiest to "just do it" rather than overthink it. Like jumping into a cold swimming pool. In a moment of immense love and appreciation for my H's trust in rebuilding I really quickly pushed the buttons and it was done. And I haven't looked back since.

If your H was the one who had the A would you want him to cut those last ties? Just do it :)

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Kat
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Registered: 07-24-2005
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 11:23pm

Hi Anna :)

I guess only you can figure out why you haven't blocked him, but I think that just the fact that you are still engaged in your mind..well that he is still taking up head space may be more what I mean...after 16 months...is a sure indicator that it would be in your best interest, mentally, to block him and close this chapter in your life so you can move on...free from further thoughts of him.

I see this a lot on EAS.


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Registered: 01-10-2011
Sun, 03-18-2012 - 4:24pm

Hi everyone,

I was away yesterday and am so happy to see all your responses today.

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