12 yr relationship/now sleeping w/his older brother
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|Thu, 09-05-2013 - 11:08pm|
Very Long story short: The 3 of us are in our late 40's/late 50's. None of us are married or have kids. I have been living with BF for 12 yrs and have been loving, faithful, supportive, working, financially secure, take care of the house 100%, never pushed him away or told him No. Have loved him dearly, taken care of him, and have tried to convince him I Am The One and that he wants to marry me, to no avail. He has rejected me sexually for 10 yrs and still refuses to marry me or do anything to protect me financially in case of disaster. Yet I know he cares about me and we do have good times and share a comfortable life. Due to certain circumstances Older Brother and I have become close friends over the last year, and over the last several months have become "involved." Although it is fantastic and you could power a small city with the energy generated when we are together, and in so many ways we are a perfect match, it is emotionally difficult for both of us, because we both love Younger Brother, but at the same time because of the situation we both feel justified. Being with Older Brother is fantastic and I have fallen in love with him. (Again, there is no wife or kids involved) I still love Younger Brother though, and the life we have built over 12 yrs even though we are more like roommates. It would be excruciatingly difficult to leave. Obviously this is complicated. The whole thing has been working OK for the last few months but I am confused as to which direction I should take, and how long can we sustain this? What do you all think? What would you do?