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|Fri, 09-07-2012 - 9:31am|
Here's the short version... I met this guy on an on-line dating site about a year and a half ago. Things went great for a few months, and then they weren't so much any more. We broke up, and less than a week later he had a new fling, they were engaged within a matter of months, and have been together since. A few months ago, we got in touch again, and decided that if things didn't work out with him and his new girl, we would meet up and see what happened.
He began telling me how his GF was mean to him and they always argued, he was unhappy and had thought about leaving her for a while. Just last week, he sent me a message saying he had kicked her out and he wanted to meet up with me as soon as possible. I checked her FB page, and sure enough, she had posted about how her life had fallen apart and she was crushed.
We made plans to meet, and everything was going very well. Or so I thought. He was telling me how he was sorry he had hurt me, that he had missed me, and he also informed me that he was letting the (now)ex move back in. Not because they were getting back together, but because she had kids and didn't have anywhere to go. He said he felt bad for them and wanted to at least give them a few weeks to get there own place.
I fell for it. Plain and simple. We spent the night together, as well as the following day. we both promised to put more effort into us and to try again. It only took a day for the messages to stop coming as often as they had before. I was hurt again, and felt like an idiot for letting him get to me and convince me I was special.
One of my friends, who knew about this whole situation, checked his FB page, and noticed that he was telling his GF that he loved her and was soooo happy to be with her. I am not his friend on FB and could not see these posts, until my friend let me log into her account so I could see for myself.
I sent him an extremely long message and told him I would give him a day to tell his GF or I would. Now I need to know if I follow through, or if I just let it be. I try and think about what I would want. Yes, it would hurt if I found out my BF was cheating on me, but the sooner I know the faster I can leave. I guess I just need advice.