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Registered: 12-31-1969
Thu, 07-26-2012 - 9:03am

My husband was involved in a 20 year marriage during which he and his first wife were unfaithful. My husband traveled on business and had several one night stands. His exwife met a man at work, rented a "lovenest" apartment and took money from the family budget to furnish  it and keep it going. I am assuming her boyfriend added money in too. My husband found out she was cheating when he found a check book that had his wife's name and boy friends name listed. She had even used the boyfriend's last name. Their children were still at home at the time. When my husband confronted her, she chose her boyfriend but he (boyfriend) went home to his wife and the relationship ended. My husband's first marriage ended a few years later when the youngest child graduated. 12 years later, they reconciled during some health crises and birth's of grand children. Me and my husband met about 10 later and began a relationship. He left his marriage and married me and we are still together. I have recently found out that I have cancer. The exwife looked at me at a baseball game and said "karma." I said "what?" and she said; "your cancer, it's Karma." She's made other comments that I've been able to hear like "what kind of mother behaves that way?" I've remained quiet, but now I'm thinking that she knows exactly what kind of mother sleeps with a married man as she did it. How can she forget that she WAS me and she had every plan to leave her teenage daughters and live in a one bedroom apartment with her boyfriend who also had teen aged children at home? What makes her cheating "better" or less karma worthy than mine?

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Registered: 07-29-2011
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Thu, 07-26-2012 - 11:24am

Concentrate on your recuperation and as to the karma comment, this woman is insane and you even giving her a second thought takes away from your task at hand and that is to get better!!!

If there is such a thing as Karma, it's going to come around and bite her on the ass so hard she'll never forget it.  As for you, just get better and the universe will deal with her!!

P.S. She's an insensitive idiot.

Best wishes.

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Registered: 03-26-2010
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Fri, 07-27-2012 - 3:43am

Wow!  She sounds straight up psycho!  You must be patient person to  have tolerated that without smacking her.  I can only imagine if she is so judgmental and bitter, karma is getting her right now.


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Registered: 09-21-2007
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Thu, 09-20-2012 - 8:31pm
What a lousy thing to say to someone?! It speaks volumes about insensitive character!!!! I would be po'd beyond belief and give you huge kudos for not blowing up on her. I agree, take the high road and let it lie. Haters have no place! :smileyhappy:
I hope and wish you beat the cancers ass!!! :smileywink:


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Registered: 03-02-2002
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Sat, 09-22-2012 - 2:41am

You said he left his marriage for you.  And, he cheated in his first marriage.  This has nothing to do with Karma that you have cancer.  What she is truly hoping for is that he cheats on you as his history suggests.  The ex is angry and bitter.  But your partner has a history.  The ex will be anxiously awaiting for him to repeat his transgresions.