We are far from perfect
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|Sat, 01-04-2014 - 5:30pm|
Not sure we're doing this affair thing right. There's no regret, no angst, no guilt. Agreed on NSA, and that's just what it is. We don't make crazy promises or demands on each other. There's no drama. There's no regrets. There's NO talk of "love." We know we are not #1 and do not aspire to take that role.
We are definitely emotionally attached, text nearly every day about anything and everything. We were best friends in school, then dated and broke up. Reconnected after a high school reunion, intimate for a year now. Both of us have been married to our spouses for nearly 20 years. The 4 of us hang out often and are great friends.
We meet occasionally for incredible sex that would put teenagers to shame. (Most would call us liars if we ever shared details of our times together!) Neither of us can believe how well our bodies still respond to each other. Magnetic. Everything that we can't get from our spouses, sexually and intellectually and emotionally, we get from each other. And that keeps our marriages very happy.
What are we doing? It's simple. We love our spouses, but it's difficult to put everything onto one person while you evolve without changing the very person you fell in love with in the first place. As time goes on, such differences can lead to hate and divorce. We don't bash our spouses or each other's spouses. We know we are far from perfect.
Is there a risk of our spouses finding out? Possibly. Divorce? Unlikely. There could be a case made for betrayal of trust and honesty, yet has there been suffering or lack of love with our spouses and families? We are there to encourage each other to take risks in our careers, make amends with family and keep the peace with our spouses. We share a deep friendship and unspoken bond. This isn't justification, but an explanation.