Will I ever know why?

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Registered: 12-29-2007
Will I ever know why?
Fri, 11-11-2011 - 10:44am

My good "friend" had sex with my husband. It was once, it stopped abruptly because they both claim they knew it was wrong and decided to stop mid-tryst.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sat, 11-12-2011 - 12:50am
You will probably never have an answer why she did this. But all you really need to take from this is that she was probably not much of a friend to begin with if she disrespected you like that. I know it hurts because the same thing happened to me many years ago. And her H was a friend/co worker of my H too. Although it wasn't a one time thing but a full blown affair.
These are the kind of toxic people you need to get out of your life for good.
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sat, 12-03-2011 - 1:06am

The why is simple.


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Registered: 01-13-2012
Sat, 01-14-2012 - 2:39pm
She did it because she has an empty hole in her self and she stupidly tried to fill it with someone else who is someone else's husband. In order for her to have even considered it, she had to mentally block you from her thoughts. She had to decieve herself into believing that they had something "special" that didn't take away from your marriage to.him or her friendship to you. She had to believe her needs were greater than yours and that what you didn't know couldn't hurt you. She would have had to play upon his male ego to the point that he couldn't take it anymore not to grab for what was being offered to him and she probably.convinced him that it was ok to try it. Rest assured with the knowledge that you have a H and a family and she is left with nothing but a deep need for a lot of psycho therapy and memories of the friendship that she decimated because of her own deep insecurities. I'm so sorry for you.
"No one can make you feel lnferior with out your consent" ~Eleanor Roosevelt