They are not female so they will never think like we do. Men have created war after war. They have used their strength and brute to conquer and submit people to their own end since the beginning of time. 98% of all the people in prisons are men. They are not like us mentally and only through tough social conventions like religion do they alter their behavior.
Instead of lamenting he is not like he 'should' be maybe it is best to figure out how you can deal with the situation for your own benefit. If he cannot change and this hurts you, move on. I know it will be really difficult for you. We are here to support you.
I know exactly how you feel.Mine did that for a few months, until I told him if he didn't start fixing the things he broke... That I was never going to speak to him again.
So... My advice to you.Stop talking to him.Don't answer his emails.Don't fret over him.
I know its hard, believe me... I do.But... He will eventually realize how big a mistake he made.And he will learn to treat you with respect.
If not...Well... Then you didn't waste any effort now did you?