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Registered: 04-29-2003
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 9:28am


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Registered: 08-01-2008
Tue, 01-13-2009 - 6:17pm
I agree. I also would suggest talking with "physical friends and family" not just messaging here. Discuss this in person with someone you trust. Even more than just one person. Get feedback from them too. The more input you get, the more you can understand your situation.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 01-10-2009 - 7:58am
It's difficult for you to really connect while your H is deployed.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-07-2008
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 8:31pm

I know exactly how you feel.
Mine did that for a few months, until I told him if he didn't start fixing the things he broke...
That I was never going to speak to him again.

So... My advice to you.
Stop talking to him.
Don't answer his emails.
Don't fret over him.

I know its hard, believe me... I do.
But... He will eventually realize how big a mistake he made.
And he will learn to treat you with respect.

If not...
Well... Then you didn't waste any effort now did you?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-25-2005
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 12:38pm
Please hang in there. You are not alone.
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Registered: 01-07-2009
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 9:57am

They are not female so they will never think like we do. Men have created war after war. They have used their strength and brute to conquer and submit people to their own end since the beginning of time. 98% of all the people in prisons are men. They are not like us mentally and only through tough social conventions like religion do they alter their behavior.

Instead of lamenting he is not like he 'should' be maybe it is best to figure out how you can deal with the situation for your own benefit. If he cannot change and this hurts you, move on. I know it will be really difficult for you. We are here to support you.