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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 8:05am
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Registered: 02-13-2006
Tue, 09-24-2013 - 3:19pm

Tread very lightly with this. I know that you wished it would have been you...his wife...that he had confided things too about his ordeal instead of a complete stranger..who happened to be a woman he woke up in bed with the next morning 3 yrs ago...BUT it wasn't. I know you must feel hurt beyond compare BUT ask yourself this...WHY NOW is he telling you this? He could have kept this a secret but he didn't.YOu will have to find it within yourself to forgive him and see if you guys can work this out.I'm so sorry that you're going through all this hurt.It sounds like you love him a lot...

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Registered: 02-26-2002
Tue, 09-24-2013 - 4:21pm

I'm sorry you're hurting....It was 3 years ago, and the guilt must ahve been bothering him why he confessed...Not saying what he did is right, but give him credit for that...The woman is long gone, you and him are now in another country...Of course, you're upset, I would be too, but try to work through it...Sounds like you love him, so it may be worth hearing what he has to say and trying to work it out....

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Sat, 10-12-2013 - 11:50pm

Well, he's made a couple of choices - choices.  He needs help for PTSD but won't get it, that won't get him anywhere.  The other choice was to do whatever it was he did with this other woman that ended up with him waking up in the morning with her.  I'm big on honesty and I'm sure I've driven my DH nuts insisting on details - did he or didn't he and much more - but although maybe this confession made HIM feel some relief, all it's done is cause you pain.  All the more reason for him to recognize he needs help for the PTSD.