My advice -
1 - Don't have anything to do with your H or anything to say to him until all relationships, emotional or physical, are totally ended in ALL ways and he is under the care of a therapist to find out why he acted as he did.
2 - Find a very good attorney to protect you financially and legally.
A baby is a gift from God
reminds me of something in the bucket list, sounds like H spent a lifetime trying to do the right thing and then cracked like an egg because he is not young anymore
and instead of looking at his life as a blessing he might be seeing his life as something other than what he had hoped and dreamed.
Like any of us really ever got what we hoped and dreamed ( duh
I pray for your healing this cannot be easy, stay at home mom is a huge commitment and selfless, I womnder if H