8.5 mos preggo w/ twins and found out
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|Thu, 04-16-2009 - 11:33am|
I'm 8 1/2 months pregnant with twins (first kids) and found out 3 days ago that my husband of 5 years has been sleeping with another woman for 2 months. They met drunk one night at a bar and she is 22 years old (we are 33).
I caught him by reading text msgs on his cell phone. He had been missing ultrasound appts for "interviews" and was really with her. He lost his job in December and I had to stop working and went on bedrest around the same time. I've been clipping coupons and saving money and cooking at home every night and he has been taking this woman to nice restaurants in the city and spending thousands on her. He also gave her $5000 (which we don't have) because she needed to pay her bills.
Our relationship was a little stressed because of our financial issues and the fact that I've been on some form of bedrest and not able to do much around the house. But, he seemed really happy and we laughed together and did everything together on weekends. He was still my best friend. We spoke on the phone at least 10 times everyday and nothing seemed different.
Once I found out about the other woman, he ended it immediately and claims that he wants to work things out with me and that his only priority is me and the babies. Yet, I was reading his email messages to her while they were still together and they were talking "love" and how great the sex was. Note: part of this bedrest and high risk pregnancy is that we have not been able to have sex since Sept.
He wants me to start couples counseling with him next week and claims that he is devastated by what he did and that he thinks about killing himself. I have no sympathy for him at all. I kicked him out of the house and told him that he will not be allowed at the birth of his kids (likely in 3-4 weeks). But, I'm still considering trying to work things out for the sake of the babies. I just want to throw up every time I think about him having sex with someone else. And when he tries to grab my hand, I want to puke and pull away.
Is this relationship repairable or should I just cut my losses now? If I wasn't pregnant, I would leave him immediately and file for divorce.