Accidentally called the OW this morning....

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Registered: 02-11-2000
Accidentally called the OW this morning....
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Tue, 08-21-2012 - 11:08am

So I have been having phone problems, my screen went out on my phone and is just black. It still works, I can answer calls and make them, but just can't see who I am calling or who is calling  me. Well, of all days my car decides to break down.  So i tried to guess what I was hitting and call my husband. He is speed dial #3. Well I think I hit the #6 instead. Well my ex-bestfriend (OW) was #6.  I thougth when I deleted her # out of my phone it would delete the speed dial also. Well it didn't. So a woman answers the phone and I say I had the wrong #. I did not realize who it was at the time. I actaully thought it was my stepdaughter's mother, but dont' get along with her really well so I just said I had the wrong #. I wasn't sure why though it had called her and was a confused at the time. A little later it hit me who it really was. So now I am upset with myself for not making sure it had deleted the speed dial also.  I also feel bad for calling her! Whcih is crazy! I feel bad for probably upsetting the woman who tried to destroy my marriage, betrayed a cherished friendship! The main reason I think I feel bad, is I know she is pregnant. Not by my husband thank goodness.  But she had had a lot of trouble getting pregnant and is probably a high risk. I also know me calling her would probably upset her. But then again! Its her fault in the first place becasue she is the one that chose to do what she did! So why do I feel guilty about calling her?

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Tue, 08-21-2012 - 11:46am
It is ok to feel all F***** up about all this. That is just how it goes. We want to hate, to forgive, to empathize, to punish, and your natural tenancy with an old friend is to be worried about them.

Sounds like your human. This is a good sign. You are not responsible for making everything better. So, just get that number off your phone, send that stepdaughter some flowers or something sweet and trudge along to the next project.

Heads up, take a deep breath, and get back to being happy.

Tom

Thomas

We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.

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Tue, 08-21-2012 - 12:20pm
Thanks! I plan to delete her number from speed dial as soon as I get my phone fixed and can see what I am doing. Hopefully that will be by the end of hte day today!