"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop." Herb Stein
If it were me, I would hand the therapist a letter outlining the situation as you walk in so that he/she has some heads up as you address it.
The first like ten sessions with my councilor, I handed him a letter outlining the issues and events from the previous week and let him spend a few min. reading it over. I would also outline my spouses behavior, good and bad that week. It gave me a chance to get it down before we talked about stuff.
5 kids ages 15-9, D Day: August 5, 2008
Status: Figuring it out. Together.
ThomasWe have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.
Well, I hope it's ok if I point out a few things.
Couples therapy is often about fixing the other person, individual therapy is about fixing yourself.
If you upset your spouse on the first session. He might not be willing to come back. The best case is to have your husband cough up the information voluntarily. That's why it might be nice to write the therapist a letter saying. "My husband does not know that I know the following. bla bla bla, What do you think is the best way to address this issues?" And see what happens.
I never liked having us talk separately, it drove me crazy sitting in the lobby knowing they were talking about me.
Best of luck
Thanks for the info. everyone.
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