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adultry and bi polar
| Fri, 08-07-2009 - 12:46pm |
I found out in April my husband of 31 years was having an affair. He has left me, For a couple of years he has had a few problems first panic attacks, then compulsion, then anger etc. I thought it was anxiety and mid life crisis , now I am quite sure he is actually bi polar with depression. He tells people things
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All the prayer in the world won't help your H until he decides he needs help.
I have given
Dear Carpender54,
I am so sorry to read about what you are going through. I have been lurking on this board for several weeks, reading the postings and marvelling at how many people find themselves in this position. This is the first time I have ever posted on a message board.
Your message spoke to me so loudly that I felt compelled to respond. I too have been married to the same husband for 31 years and found out in April that he was having an emotional affair with a co-worker. The agony and devastation are so profound that some days I don't know if I will make it through. I saw a counselor through my employee assistance program, and she strongly believed that my husband is also bipolar. He has also been to counseling and will have a mental health evaluation next week.
I completely understand your confusion. I just wanted you to know that someone out there is thinking about you and hoping that things will improve. I do not want to hijack your thread with my problems, but would like to ask you if you have told your children about what is going on with your marriage? Our five adult children do not know anything about this and it is so very difficult. I do not feel authentic but more like I am playing a part.
I hope that you find peace and the strength to carry on.
yes they know infact
So sorry you are going through this. I was married to my bipolar ex for 21 yrs. It was such a roller coaster, I so know what you mean. He is with a girl 18 yrs. younger than him, and they are living together, a girl almost our daughters age! My ex had two affairs, both times he left, the first time, the girl didn't stay with him, and he came crawling back, and then 4 yrs. later, he leaves again, when I found out about this affair. This time though, the girl stayed with him and they are now living together, and in fact they are taking my kids on vacation today, which bothers me so much!
I don't really have any advice, just know that you are not alone, and try and stay strong. It is so hard at first, and I cried everyday after he left for a long time, but I am fine now, so it takes time. I still get upset over things he says or does, but what can you do, it happens. Hang in there!
Lori
GEESE!
I haven't been on here in a while, but I wanted to say how sorry I am you are going through this.
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