I found out Monday.
I'm sorry ashcap but IMHO this is a lot of crap!
Sorry Ash, I'm calling bullsh*t on this too.
I was utterly devoted to my husband when it was all going on. Sex whenever he wanted, adoration all the way ... we were newly married when I found out.
My husband did it because he was a horrible man at the time. His moral compass was cracked across the middle, and he had a false sense of entitlement. I had to be sacrificed for him to turn back into a grown man.
Here's a couple of links that were given to me when i first came here ....
From your post it sounds like your hubby is remorseful, which bodes well for your future together. There's a book which is often recommended here called 'Not Just Friends' by Shirley Glass. Perhaps you could read it together if he is willing.
Ollie beat me to it!!!
I would ditch this book and
I agree with what eeryone else has submitted!!