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|Fri, 04-23-2010 - 9:21am|
I posted this on the Life after Betrayal board, but I feel like it should have probably gone here.
So I have been here for a while. I don't post very often because I've become a very quiet private person. But I find myself with no where to turn. I can't speak to my friends or family because they went through this with me the first time, and while they supported my decision, no one was really happy about it.
Long story short my husband had a long-term affair. He eventually moved out (and in with this woman). After 3 weeks of living with her he got the "grass isn't greener" syndrome and begged to come home. I allowed it with the stipulation that all contact ended and that if it resumed it would be a deal breaker. He agreed. We moved to a new neighborhood, presumably a new life with no strings to the past. Things were going SO well.
About 3 weeks ago I received a text message that wasn't intended for me. It said "I'm out. I have 30 minutes before work if you want to talk. How are you?" I responded "That was really stupid" He instantly called and told me that it was intended for a friend. I checked the phone logs and while I didn't recognize the number it was not the friend he named. Fast forward....he asked me to fix his computer (the one that his "friend" gave him brand new in the box) - by the way the old flame is infamous for giving expensive gifts - he couldn't access a game we both played online. So i fixed it and logged into the game as him (on his computer remember) to test it out. As I played I moved around within the game and noticed someone following me everywhere I went. I looked up that persons ID and while it is obviously a fake ID all of the groups they belong too so do my husband including his political view sites, TV show favorites, and local information.
I then searched this person on Yahoo. It has 2 connections. My husband and the other womans best friend. Its kind of hard now to deny who it is even without a name attached...well her real name. She is posing as a married man on the alter egos.
Anyway, I don't know how to proceed. My children are intensely attached to my husband. I do love this man even through the BS.
Sorry its so long...it felt good to get it all out though.
BTW - and what I forgot to add...to look at him react to me you'd think we were perfect. He's loving, attentive, kind (most of the time), posts publically on FB even knowing she can see it as my pages are not private.