all roads lead to divorce

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Registered: 06-01-2009
all roads lead to divorce
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 12:04am

This is a little off subject...

But this is where I have liked to come to post and have support.

I love my husband with all my heart and soul, and it is soooooo heartbreaking.....

In the end I think we will be divorced and I will leave him...I dont see another ending.It is not the ending I want but in the end I dont know if I can live like this forever....

On top of the emotional affair there are other issues...soooo much to overcome....

Lately, he has been working and not getting home till 10 pm every nite....So tonite I get a text from him that he is on his way home that is at 7:00 pm.... I dont here anything till 8:30.. at 8:30 is when he should be getting home with his commute...So what does he tell me at 8:30..oh no he hasnt left yet...His boss called him on his way out...Turns out they all went out to a bar, his boss and a few other employees...

Here I am complaining over the last month about his hours,hoping and praying he will have some time for me....and what does the man do? He goes out for drinks? He hasnt been home one nite this week before ten pm and he thinks he should go out for drinks tonite?

And he is mad at me for being upset????? What the heck?

I am soooo done......tonite when we are talking he brings up the fact that I have talked about divorcing him over the past 2 yrs...I guess it bothers ..But man I dont know...If he cared than what in Gods name is he doing..

I have made it very clear that I am unhappy and I am....I need a kiss, a cuddle, a man who wants to come home to me friday nite when he has worked late all week....Geeeez just throw me a freakin bone... And he just thinks and expects I will be happy no matter what.??? Ok he works, but is that all he has to contribute to this realationship..I need sooooooo much more.. I need love......

Heartbroken...and he acts like I am the bad guy....

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 2:11pm
Personally I think if there's been any kind of EAS or PAS, that going to the bars without you there should be off limits.
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Registered: 01-22-2010
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 5:53am

I totally understand how you feel, nda.

What kind of work does your H do that keeps him away from home until 10 p.m.?