Am I crazy?

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Registered: 11-15-2013
Am I crazy?
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Thu, 03-27-2014 - 10:46am

My husband had an emotional affair with his boss. This is a woman that he brought into my life and the lives of my children and we became friends. He told me about the affair about 6 months ago, even though I'd known for at least a year that it was happening. He denied it until he finally fessed up. 

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Registered: 01-09-2014
Tue, 04-08-2014 - 4:46pm
Hi JWP, to h@ll with what everyone thinks. To h@ll if you divorce him that he may go and marry the other woman. Please sit down and think about your wants and needs and if you want to continue being married to someone that is possibly in love with someone else. If he really respected your feelings he would of CEASED all contact with her. I know professionally they have to stay in contact but all that other extra stuff is not necessary. I wouldn't be ok with the phone calls at every hour of the day or night. Its not accepted but since you continue to allow it and don't take actions to let him know you will not tolerate it, he's going to continue doing it because.....he can. He does ONLY what you allow him to do. Don't let him run this craziness that he's doing here. Take the bull by the horns and let him know ENOUGH is ENOUGH. Stand up for yourself and all that other stuff with family and all that FB nonsense please shut that all down and just deactivate it. You don't need the added stress. You are grown and need to act like the Queen that you are. Best of luck to you sweety!
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Registered: 07-12-2010
Fri, 04-11-2014 - 2:49pm
The greatest thing you can do for yourself, your DH and your marriage is to expose their affair to her DH (if she has one) and their employer. Don't be afraid to loose your DH to this OW because when they are having an A, you have already lost him. You have to stand up for yourself and your M. Exposure kills the secrecy and the allure of the A. I exposed my DH and his nasty POS xow to their employer and their co-workers. Exposure made my DH get off the pot and put their dirty deed in the light of day and not hidden like mole spores. I would also expose to mutual friends. I really don't believe that your DH and her have only had an EA. I am willing to bet that it goes deeper than that. If you and your DH were having problems, find out what is lacking in your M and fix it. Communicate your needs to your DH and make sure he communicates his needs to you and make sure that you are meeting each other's emotional, physical needs; but make sure that the A ends ASAP because your M cannot be saved when there is a third party involved. Also, stop talking the the xow. If she cared anything about you in the first place, she wouldn't be betraying you with your DH. You should put your foot down and demand that your DH hides nothing from you. Remember that with some cheaters it's all a game to them and they take joy in working together to keep the BS in the dark. Expose their dirty deeds as soon as you can.

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